tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2326646518587381762024-03-18T23:51:54.768-05:00Under Thy RoofKirbyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10273803585943545418noreply@blogger.comBlogger372125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-232664651858738176.post-51730282813174031132021-02-01T08:42:00.000-06:002021-02-01T08:42:50.138-06:00Life Issues Lent 2021<p> <table align="center" cellpadding="0" cellspacing="0" class="tr-caption-container" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><tbody><tr><td style="text-align: center;"><a href="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjzop1iv1MoBi4KHOK-60NwpuoQhr66jFK23fl09i3wT9pxzg2RLcn63PqSENZ1EDGTZHAUAPAuRqNc2pdxPQUL2BZ4J3XCsq0gYf326OJQklEzKM54ouN1P6Yqj2zKkeW0gD-kF2O9gXE/s1080/Life+Issues+Lent+2021.jpg" imageanchor="1" style="margin-left: auto; margin-right: auto;"><img border="0" data-original-height="1080" data-original-width="1080" height="400" src="https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/img/b/R29vZ2xl/AVvXsEjzop1iv1MoBi4KHOK-60NwpuoQhr66jFK23fl09i3wT9pxzg2RLcn63PqSENZ1EDGTZHAUAPAuRqNc2pdxPQUL2BZ4J3XCsq0gYf326OJQklEzKM54ouN1P6Yqj2zKkeW0gD-kF2O9gXE/w400-h400/Life+Issues+Lent+2021.jpg" width="400" /></a></td></tr><tr><td class="tr-caption" style="text-align: center;"></td></tr></tbody></table><br /></p><p>I sat with the "what should I do for Lent?" question for a good long while.</p><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;">The pandemic stretches on and my heart and soul have been crying for justice on so many issues for so long.</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;">I am tired and weary. </div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;">It came to me that I needed a different kind of Lent. Maybe you do too.</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;">One not focused on food and diet in the midst of intense change. One that reclaimed my own power to do good in my little corner of the world, and to support others in their bigger world work.</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;">The whole idea at the very very beginning of this blog was marrying the small c church in my home with the larger C Church out in the world.</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;">More than ever I feel that it is important to shine light into musty places and do the work we can do.</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;">So I made a list of some of the life issues that have been particularly crying out to me. I broke down the season of Lent into roughly one week segments and gave each a life issue of focus. Each week I ask myself two things:</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;">1. What is an action within this issue that I can do to work towards the good?</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;">2. What organizations are doing good work on this issue near me?</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;">It doesn't need to be perfect. It doesn't need to be formally Catholic. It doesn't need to be big.</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;">Do what you can, where you are.</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;">Each of the weeks, I will be holding that particular issue near in my prayer intentions, in my reading, and in how I use my time. But I am not prescribing what that should look like. Maybe one week I pray the same prayer to a particular intercessor every day. Maybe I read a book on the issue. Maybe it's completely different the other weeks, or I change plans within the week.</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;">It's ok.</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;">This idea is all about learning, growing, getting used to taking action, and taking another look around at who is doing good in the community and who I can help.</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;">I will be sharing what I do on Instagram and Facebook. If you would like to share what you are doing, and the good you have found, comment there or you are welcome to DM me (or email if you're not a social media person). If I get enough people sharing, I would like to make compilation blog posts of what you have found and are doing. I personally love hearing about unique ways people have found to serve a need in their community. </div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;">I think we could all use another opportunity to share the light.</div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: left;"><br /></div><div class="separator" style="clear: both; text-align: center;"><i>I'm going to be using the hashtag #LifeIssuesLent for the sake of organizing this project. You're welcome to use it too!</i></div><br /><p></p><p>Here's the text version of the graphic:</p><p>Life Issues Lent 2021</p><p>2/17 - 2/23 Birth and Pregnancy</p><p>2/24 - 3/2 Capital Punishment and Prisons</p><p>3/3 - 3/9 Healthcare</p><p>3/10 - 3/16 Environment</p><p>3/17 - 3/23 Racism</p><p>3/24 - 3/31 Refugees</p>Kirbyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10273803585943545418noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-232664651858738176.post-13640152814861234612020-07-24T14:14:00.000-05:002020-07-24T14:14:28.557-05:00Statues are Complicated, Especially When You're a Native Catholic<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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There has been a massive rash of toppling statues in the United States - followed by a rush to defend the fallen statues.<br />
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There are two separate issues for me here: destruction of churches/church property and destruction of public statues and figures. Vandalism and destruction of churches and statues on church property likely veer into hate crime territory and should be denounced with ferocity. That is not ok, ever. Catholics are not just here to be abused and no one should ever be targeted for violence.<br />
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Public statues are different. Many of those have had appeals for decades for their removal. Those appeals have been kicked down the road, ignored, or outright belittled for years upon years. Contrary to beliefs that I have heard around the Catholic internet, these public statues are not an issue purely because they are of a person who was Catholic (which would be a problem). The statues are at issue because of the actions of the individuals and systems they represent.<br />
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Let's talk about the top two controversial statues of Catholic people at the moment: Columbus and Serra. Both have many public statues. Both have a legacy that greatly concerns Native people in the Americas.<br />
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This guy. Not a saint. Never landed in the United States. Did not land under the Italian flag. Yet somehow he became the image for Italian-American Catholics in the United States.<br />
His supporters like to claim that Columbus never had slaves, never committed atrocities, and merely wanted to bring Catholicism to the greater world. None of that is remotely supported by the historical record. From his own diary about the native Arawaks, "with fifty men they can all be subjugated and made to do what is required of them." If that sounds like slavery, it is.<br />
It gets worse. There are records of reports that Columbus rewarded his men with women from the local tribes. If that sounds like sanctioned rape, it is.<br />
The following was written by Columbus to a friend in Spain in 1500, "A hundred castellanoes are as easily obtained for a woman as for a farm, and it is very general and there are plenty of dealers who go about looking for girls; those from nine to ten are now in demand." In case you missed it, this is Columbus advertising to his friend that girls as young as 9 were being hunted to be used at will. That's child slavery, and often child sex slavery.<br />
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No matter what century you are in, this was wrong. I find it incredibly disturbing to hear Catholics defend these actions as some sort of product of his time. Rape, mass enslavement, child abuse, and other evils are not products of their time. They are symptoms of evil. This is a particularly weak argument because there were debates and movements contemporary with Columbus for humane treatment of the native peoples.<a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bartolom%C3%A9_de_las_Casas"> Servant of God Bartolomé de las Casas, O.P.</a> was integral in many of these debates, especially the famous <a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Valladolid_debate">Valladolid debate</a>.<br />
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For that matter, Italian-Americans have better choices! People who really were strong practicing Catholics who lived in the United States. Mother Cabrini is a good example, and in fact has been <a href="https://www.cnn.com/2020/03/11/us/colorado-columbus-day-cabrini-day-trnd/index.html">picked up by the state of Colorado to replace Columbus Day with Cabrini Day</a>. She was an Italian immigrant herself, a saint, and her work directly made the lives of Italian immigrants better. I can get behind that.<br />
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Serra is more complicated because he is a canonized saint. In theory, his cause has gone through a rigorous examination that should take into account any possible places where his life and works would bring controversy or concern. But Junipero Serra was not canonized under the normal system. His cause was formed centuries after his death, lacking in personal writings, reliant on descendant testimony of those who knew him, and allowed to skip typical steps in the process.<br />
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Much of the controversy is this: for Native people, and most Californians, Serra embodies and represents the mission system (<a href="https://blogs.berkeley.edu/2015/09/22/its-complicated-one-native-californians-thoughts-on-the-canonization-of-junipero-serra/">see this beautifully written perspective</a>). Serra came with the conquistadors, and the situation for decades would remain a choice of terrible option A or terrible option B.<br />
Terrible option A: die brutally by the hands of the conquistadors or in via forced work in the mines or plantations/ranches.<br />
Terrible option B: die in the missions where the work was also brutally hard and disease so prevalent the death rate exceeded the birth rate for most of it's existence.<br />
Option C, stay outside of both, was hardly an option with disease continuing to spread, food scarce due to the arrival of the Spaniards, and the frequent rounding up of Native people. The terrible options weren't so much options as they were an inevitability.<br />
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Being told we shouldn't see the effects of the mission system when evaluating Serra seems near impossible. If Serra had not founded the mission system in California, his work would not have nearly the interest or support that it does for his sainthood. I don't see how to speak of one without the other. The voices of Native people are a large and echoing void in the Church discussions of Serra. Very few perspectives of the Native descendants of the missions were included in the documentation for his cause, and the consistent protest of Native people to his canonization were ignored for the sake of image.<br />
Pope Francis had declared he would canonize Serra, despite lacking the requirements and procedures to do so. He wanted to do it during his US visit, which was already scheduled and looming. The Curia found a way to make it happen. Native people feel silenced because they were silenced. Silenced for the sake of a political statement, and once again used as a regrettable sacrifice for the Church.<br />
This is why many people are upset. You would be too.<br />
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<b>The Bishop Barron thing</b><br />
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I take special issue with <a href="https://www.wordonfire.org/resources/article/why-what-are-the-bishops-doing-about-it-is-the-wrong-question/27757/">public Catholic leaders trying to claim that they shouldn't have to do anything about statues</a> and denying their normal claim to leadership. Suddenly when it becomes iffy, complicated, something that might make the church look less than stellar - it's the laity's problem.<br />
I can't believe I have to say this to people who should know better, but if it's a problem in the church it's a problem for us all - laity and clergy alike. No one gets to opt out. This is a moral question, and a question of the actions of the church hierarchy. Both facets deserve to be answered by our clergy with respect and attention. The laity must do work too, absolutely, but it is shameful for clergy to try and wash their hands of the issues.<br />
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Many of these statues were controversial when they were erected. They have remained controversial. Instead of caring about legitimate concerns, Native people have been brushed off and ignored - often told that these concerns were just due to our anti-Catholicism. <a href="http://www.usccb.org/issues-and-action/cultural-diversity/native-american/demographics/index.cfm">When 25% of Native people are Catholic</a>, that's a major problem. Native people should not have to choose between speaking truth about history and being seen as good Catholics.<br />
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If the Church has made mistakes, those mistakes must be acknowledged and rectified. Anything less is dishonest and fatal to the Body of Christ. Where corruption has leaked in, it must be repaired not ignored. These are truths we know. We have lived through years of scandal already. We have no business pretending that we don't know how serious it is to refuse to address wrongs.<br />
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<i>Weeeeeelllll this was a fun one. I was REALLY hoping to do this piece later, but current events and statements meant moving it up sooner rather than later. Statues and dissent about popular figures is not my favorite subject, but this is a very common topic where people read one source that is agreeable to them and proceed to never learn about it again. It matters even more as decisions are made now for how to replace, or not, the statues that have fallen. </i></div>
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Kirbyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10273803585943545418noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-232664651858738176.post-155432749323269302020-07-14T11:01:00.000-05:002020-07-14T11:02:07.104-05:00Indian Boarding Schools: A Forgotten Legacy<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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Much of the wider US population only hears about Native concerns when the news covers a conflict about a statue of Columbus, a racist mascot, or an oil pipeline. These things do genuinely matter, but I think most people have never heard of one of the root traumas that is at the heart of the desperation to defend what is Native: Indian boarding schools.<br />
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Don't feel bad if you've never heard of the Indian Boarding Schools. I didn't know about them myself until I was asked to put together an exhibit on them for my college library during Native Heritage Month - despite my own grandmother and great-grandparents having attended some of the most infamous of the boarding schools.<br />
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These were not like what you might be picturing when I say boarding schools: with manicured lawns, high academics, and social climbing. This was more akin to industrial school/boot camp/prison for young Native children.<br />
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The primary objective of these schools was to assimilate the children into mainstream white, Christian, western centered culture. From the beginning that was not seen as something to be done with respect for their Native cultures. Brigadier General Richard Henry Pratt, who would found the Carlisle Indian School that both of my great-grandparents attended, famously said "kill the indian, save the man" to describe the ethos of the schools. In a speech in 1892 Pratt said, "A great general has said that the only good Indian is a dead one. In a sense, I agree with the sentiment, but only in this: that all the Indian there is in the race should be dead."<br />
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<a href="http://digicoll.library.wisc.edu/cgi-bin/History/History-idx?type=turn&entity=History.AnnRep91p1.p0025&id=History.AnnRep91p1&isize=M">In 1891 an Indian appropriation act was passed that made attendance at the boarding schools compulsory.</a> Significantly, this allowed children to be forcibly taken from their families and tribes. If parents did not send their children, the Commissioner of Indian Affairs was authorized to withhold rations, clothing, and annuities (something in violation of treaty agreements.) Many families and tribes tried to resist. They attempted the hide the children. Some Native police officers resigned rather than carry out orders to take the children. <a href="https://www.history.com/news/alcatraz-had-some-surprising-prisoners-hopi-men">In 1895, 19 Hopi men were imprisoned in Alcatraz for refusing to send their children to the Indian schools.</a><br />
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It wasn't until 1978, with the <a href="https://www.childwelfare.gov/topics/systemwide/diverse-populations/americanindian/icwa/#:~:text=The%20Indian%20Child%20Welfare%20Act,placement%20of%20American%20Indian%20children.&text=ICWA%20established%20standards%20for%20the,involved%20in%20child%20welfare%20cases.">Indian Child Welfare Act</a>, that parents were given the legal right to refuse to place their children in Indian schools. That's 87 years when there was no legal ability to refuse to be separated from their children.<br />
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<b>Life at Indian Boarding Schools</b><br />
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Many of the schools were intentionally located far away from the children's tribe, family, and homelands. Speaking Native languages was forbidden, including out of the classroom. Punishments for speaking Native languages, even if the child didn't know a word of English, could be swift and severe. Upon arrival at the schools, the children would be given new names, English names. Their hair would be cut (in many tribes cutting your hair is cutting off your connection to your past and ancestors). Practice of the school's sponsoring denomination's religion was often required to some degree.<br />
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My family were sent to the Carlisle Indian School, the Ponca Indian School, and the Haskell Institute (now Haskell Indian Nations University). My great-grandparents were given the names Theodore and Zilla by the time they arrived at school. I have no idea what their tribal names were. They didn't record those names. <a href="http://carlisleindian.dickinson.edu/">Carlisle has been digitizing all of their student records, and I highly recommend giving the project some of your time.</a> They kept every scrap of correspondence, reviews, intake forms, and reports. As a descendant it's both a fascinating treasure trove and incredibly unsettling to have my family so exposed and documented.<br />
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Zilla was an orphan - likely her parents died either before or during the Ponca Trail of Tears. Over a quarter of the Ponca tribe died in the first year after forced relocation due to food shortages and malaria. She was alone by the time they arrived in Oklahoma from Ponca homelands in Nebraska. Her reports at school are consistently good. She clearly wanted to be liked by those in charge. She worked hard at her studies and followed the rules. She was smart and actually achieved a high school education by the time she left the school in 1917 - a feat for anyone at that time, but even more so for an orphaned Native girl. In reading her file I felt like I could see the desperation of an orphan realizing that her survival depends on the approval of others. She could not afford resisting.<br />
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Theodore was consistently a pain to the school administration. He resisted as much as possible. He eventually went on leave to visit his sister in New York state and never returned. Punishments are not recorded in the files I have found, but there are records of visits to family being refused by letter. The administration felt that he was too resistant to his work and breaks were liable to make that continue. Breaking bonds among family and tribal members was not just a consequence but a goal of the schools.<br />
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Both of my ancestors arrived at Carlisle in their teens as a finish to their time in Indian boarding schools, but they started much younger. Children as young as 4 and 5 years old were taken from their families and sent away to boarding school. Many never came home. Malnutrition, overwork, overcrowding, and rampant infectious disease killed many children. Rates of tuberculous in 1915 Indian boarding schools were 4-5 times higher than the non-native rate. Rates of diseases like measles, mumps, and smallpox were double or triple the national rates. Conditions were often unsanitary and the farm work that was part of their education hard and dangerous.<br />
Every boarding school has it's own cemetery due to the high mortality rate.<br />
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How did the Catholic run schools fare? Unfortunately, many of the worse stories of abuse happened in the religious run schools. For many Native people, the association with clerical garb and fear started here.<br />
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In 1872 the Board of Indian Commissioners allotted 73 Indian agencies to various Christian religious denominations. Seven of those agencies were under the Catholic Church in some way. In 1872 that was 17,856 Native people under Catholic run Indian agencies. Catholics never operated the majority of boarding schools. Most students attending boarding school would have experienced a school run by a mainline Protestant denomination or the federal government. But we should resist the temptation to blame shift that most of the offenses were not committed by Catholics. For one, there are no hard numbers on the abuses that occurred in these schools in order to know for certain if that is even a true claim. For another, one case of abuse is too many. These were children who deserved to be safe.<br />
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<a href="https://tucson.com/news/local/western-women-st-katharine-drexel-used-personal-wealth-to-open-schools/article_2c14ede1-d5e7-5967-b37c-8b895f6af27f.html">Many Catholic run schools and missions were sponsored in large part by St. Katherine Drexel</a>. Her interaction with funding and furthering Catholic schools for Native students deserves it's own space, but includes much overlap with American anti-Catholicism, misogyny among clergy, and resentment of outside influence on local decisions.<br />
Crucially, many Catholic run schools were located on reservations. This meant that Catholic tradition had to interact with the local Native culture and traditions in a way that was avoided or banned in many of the off-reservation schools. This meshing of Catholicism and Native traditions in the boarding schools has multiple consequences. It meant that trauma and struggles of the school environment would become connected with Catholicism forever more for those students - a phenomenon that is observed in people who attended non-boarding Catholic schools as well.<br />
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Most of the historical sources I have found focus on the struggles of the individuals and orders running the schools, and there's a echoing lack of stories from the perspective of the students in the academic literature. This is something to be aware of whenever doing work to understand experience. I've included resources for first hand stories from students of these schools at the end of this post. I strongly encourage everyone to listen to them, with the awareness that these are hard and raw things.<br />
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There is a parallel story here for the Catholic Church. The Church was/is very involved in the Canadian school system, and the boarding schools experienced by First Nations people. There are many factors that make the experience of Native peoples living in the United States and Canada very different. For the sake of clarity, I have focused on those schools operating in the United States, but I encourage you to <a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Canadian_Indian_residential_school_system">learn more about First Nations as well</a>.<br />
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Yes, there are still boarding schools for Native kids around the United States today. Many have been given over to tribal or local control. Some are still run by the Catholic Church. There is an American Indian Catholic Schools Network that maintains a <a href="https://ace.nd.edu/american-indian-catholic-schools-network/member-schools">list of current US Catholic Indian Mission Schools</a>.<br />
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The legacy of boarding school is varied and wide. Some students, like my grandmother, were proud of graduating from boarding school. Others carried physical, emotional, and mental scars for the rest of their lives. Many would not/do not speak about their school experiences. Others are just beginning to give voice to those memories.<br />
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Boarding school did contribute to the formation of some kind of pan-Native identity. This was an experience that both pulled apart tribes and brought them together in a shared goal or fight. The tradition of Indian Princess pageants, which began at boarding school as another tool for assimilation, has been reclaimed by many tribes as a way to pass down their particular traditions and values.<br />
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The schools did change the religious landscape among Native peoples. <a href="http://www.usccb.org/issues-and-action/cultural-diversity/native-american/demographics/index.cfm">As of 2000, it was estimated that 780,000 people of Native ancestry in the US were Catholics</a>. The involvement and exposure to Catholic tradition remains important to many Native people, and the intersections of the two identities continues to be a work in progress. This a living, breathing, experience - a far cry from the static museum approach too many use when discussing Native people.<br />
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<i><b>Want to learn more?</b></i><br />
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The Heard Museum opened an exhibit in 2000 entitled Away from Home: Indian Boarding School Stories. Their website includes a <a href="https://heard.org/boardingschool/">good overview of the boarding school experience and includes first hand accounts</a>. Most of their <a href="https://heard.org/boardingschool/for-educators/">education curriculum</a> is focused on high school aged students, but there are good book lists for all grade levels (starting in 1st grade) and the educator reading list is helpful for curious adults.<br />
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<a href="https://boardingschoolhealing.org/">The National Native American Boarding School Healing Coalition</a> - based in Minneapolis, MN, this group has a number of resources for education, advocacy, and healing resources. Their <a href="https://boardingschoolhealing.org/advocacy/carlisle-repatriation/">repatriation project</a> is of particular interest for Carlisle school descendants and survivors after the army ruled to fund the return of the dead to their tribes and families in 2016.<br />
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<a href="https://www.amazon.com/Stringing-Rosaries-Unforgivable-Contemporary-Indigenous/dp/1946163104/ref=as_li_ss_tl?ie=UTF8&linkCode=sl1&tag=indianzcombookst&linkId=637857ff7424d7fdb3c6cbaed8a1c1c5&language=en_US">Stringing Rosaries: The History, the Unforgivable, and the Healing of Northern Plains American Indian Boarding School Survivors</a> by Denise K. Lajimodiere<br />
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<a href="https://www.amazon.com/Education-Extinction-American-Experience-1875-1928/dp/0700608389/ref=pd_bxgy_2/135-4135071-2168432?_encoding=UTF8&pd_rd_i=0700608389&pd_rd_r=b87e0ecf-a825-4597-a031-9d7d69dd0145&pd_rd_w=mtKjp&pd_rd_wg=isvB9&pf_rd_p=ce6c479b-ef53-49a6-845b-bbbf35c28dd3&pf_rd_r=GA6VE523ZG53BK7PK9XM&psc=1&refRID=GA6VE523ZG53BK7PK9XM">Education for Extinction</a> by David Wallace Adams<br />
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<a href="https://blackandindianmission.org/aboutus/bcim">Black and Indian Mission Office history</a> - gives a good overview of Catholic Indian missions. This is not from the Native perspective, but is useful to get a wider picture.<br />
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<i>What questions still remain for you? The boarding school experience was very different for various peoples and locations. Have you looked into the experience of your local tribes? What was in your area?</i><br />
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Kirbyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10273803585943545418noreply@blogger.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-232664651858738176.post-36630616155478003592020-07-07T09:44:00.000-05:002020-07-07T09:44:10.840-05:00A Story of a Mixed Race, White Passing, Catholic Woman<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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I'm one of the many mixed race Catholics you might not realize are around in your parish. We can pass for one of our race categories, and mostly no one questions their first assumption until little signs are dropped. Like talking about "my tribe." Mentioning being excited for an exhibit of Native women artists coming to town.<br />
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My Dad is from the Ponca of Oklahoma. We're not just rumors-in-the-family-of-Cherokee-blood natives, but on the rolls, card carrying, Natives. Our tribe is teeny tiny, and hits most of your ideas of Native culture. We invented Fancy Dance with the big feather headdress and regalia you might picture when you think of a powwow. Also we powwow. We did hunt buffalo and live in tepees. Someone has to be the stereotype.<br />
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My family is also Catholic. That can get painful. You see, most Catholics haven't heard of the history that can make those two legacies difficult to reconcile. I've met many Native people who are openly antagonistic toward the Catholic Church and practicing Catholic Natives. I've also been around many Catholics who speak of Native people as a historic past, not a living breathing reality. Between the people in the parish who don't understand why you might be hurt by their adoration of Columbus or jokes about Native treaty claims, and the other Natives who think you're brainwashed for being Catholic at all - we end up in a no mans land.<br />
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Over the next few weeks I hope to start to share more about these places where these two parts of me end up talking past each other. We are capable to expanding understanding, and learning the historical background that helps prevent harmful ignorance. This will be mostly about sharing Native perspectives. While there are many voices explaining Catholicism, there are very few for the intersection of Catholicism and Native history/experience.<br />
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Some topics that have come to mind:<br />
Indian Boarding Schools, including the Catholic run schools<br />
Doctrine of Discovery, Columbus, and Missionary Mandate<br />
Treaties, Reservations, Nationhood<br />
Family, Blood quantum, Adoptions, Native Womanhood<br />
Native traditions and the Catholic faith<br />
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What kinds of questions do you have? Where would you like to grow and learn? It's ok to be coming at this from a place of minimal to no background. We all have to start somewhere. I love sharing history and stories, and it helps to have questions!<br />
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Kirbyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10273803585943545418noreply@blogger.com7tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-232664651858738176.post-7474295817272651082020-04-02T09:46:00.000-05:002020-04-02T09:46:28.069-05:00Don't Let a Pandemic Become a Failure of Love<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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I have been watching a tragedy unfold in the past weeks of this pandemic. It's not just a tragedy due to the virus itself. It's a tragedy of choice. It's one that has revealed an infestation present and hovering beneath the surface of many parishes. The pandemic has rooted it from the unspoken underground and brought it to light.<br />
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These past weeks my heart and trust has been broken over and over again by my pastor, parish, community, and many of those I called friend. I can't deny the sickness of pride and the crippling of love that has been unavoidable to notice.<br />
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It is not courage to seek loopholes and work arounds to the rules during a pandemic.<br />
It is not faith that seeks the sacraments regardless of the consequences.<br />
This is not a religious persecution issue.<br />
Your enemy is not the rules. We are not up against a typical enemy of war. This is a virus.<br />
A virus does not care about your reason for gathering. Expecting a miracle to prevent the transmission of disease so you can attend an underground mass is both the sin of presumption and an act of disobedience against your rightful bishop, in many cases. You are not demonstrating your devotion to the Eucharist. On the contrary, you are demonstrating a depth of pride and failure of love.<br />
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Love desires the good of another. Love does not say the risk of illness and death to yourself and others is an acceptable consequence of your chosen action. Especially when that is a foreseeable consequence.<br />
Love does not choose ignorance. Love does not deny reality. Love is not hard headed.<br />
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Yet many of us are receiving a warped version of love and community from our parishes and pastors lately. The adherence to ignorance, and narrow minded focus on one way of being Church, will have consequences well beyond this time of physical sickness.<br />
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Our neighbors see us. They see the churches that have refused to comply with rules. That delayed and put off reasonable precautions. They will remember how slow that church was to act when the community was under threat.<br />
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The more vulnerable members of the community see us. They will remember how their lives were discussed as not a point of concern. That their health was seen as their own problem that was only getting in the way of other's need for access to the sacraments as they desired.<br />
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Don't kid yourself that a parish is justified in it's sins against faith and community merely because of it's adherence to beautiful liturgy and orthodox catechists. Because if I have not love, I have nothing.<br />
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<i>"If I speak in human and angelic tongues but do not have love, I am a resounding gong or a clashing cymbal. And if I have the gift of prophecy and comprehend all mysteries and all knowledge; if I have all faith so as to move mountains but do not have love, I am nothing. If I give away everything I own, and if I hand my body over so that I may boast but do not have love, I gain nothing." </i><br />
<i>- 1 Corinthians 13: 1-3</i><br />
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There is a phenomenon about the stories of epidemics throughout history. Despite their wide reach and shared experience throughout a population, the first hand stories of the lived experiences of an epidemic are few. It's as though, collectively, human communities have experienced a sense of shame and desire to forget what happened. But, as we should know by now, it's never true that evils disappear as long as they stay unspoken and unacknowledged. They wait. They fester. They come back again.<br />
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The only way to break that cycle is to root out the sickness. COVID-19 will end someday. We pray for a treatment, a cure, a vaccine. But there is no medicine that can heal a wounded soul without truth, faith, and love.<br />
My prayer is for parishes to break the cycle of us vs them thinking. For pastors who have made errors in their response to apologize publicly. For members of those parishes to open their eyes and see what has been happening. For an abundance of faith, trust, and love over fear, pride, and ignorance.<br />
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<i>“A new commandment I give to you, that you love one another, even as I have loved you, that you also love one another.“By this all men will know that you are My disciples, if you have love for one another.”</i><br />
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Kirbyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10273803585943545418noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-232664651858738176.post-26679334019156593152020-03-12T12:48:00.000-05:002020-03-12T12:48:08.490-05:00You're Unexpectedly Stuck Home with the Kids - Now What?<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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With COVID-19 shut downs happening all around the country, I've heard a lot of people asking "what do I do with my kids?" We're a homeschooling family, so my kids are always home, and have been through a Minnesota polar vortex winter, tiny apartment living, and a house fire that meant living in a hotel for five weeks.<br />
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Being unexpectedly stuck home with the kids means you likely didn't have time to prepare, probably can't go anywhere, and likely have some work to get done yourself (and, ya know, not go crazy.) You can do this! Here's some ideas.<br />
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<b>1. Set a schedule</b><br />
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I cannot tell you how important this is. Some sort of pre-determined structure to your day is everything when you are all home, all day, in each other's space. This can be very fluid! Ours looks like this:<br />
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Breakfast as people wake up<br />
Dress after breakfast<br />
Morning chores (straighten up, start laundry, unload dishwasher)<br />
Announce "the plan of the day" (we'll get to that in a second)<br />
Lunch<br />
Nap/quiet time/school/learning show<br />
Snack<br />
Afternoon chores (fold laundry, prep/cook dinner, big group pick up)<br />
Dinner<br />
Family time (movie, game night, walk, etc.)<br />
Bedtime (I suggest early and kids not sleepy yet get quiet reading time)<br />
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<b>2. Make a list</b><br />
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Our "plan of the day" is me announcing the game plan. In a normal time, this involves our classes, outings, errands, projects, or whatever else needs to happen that day with the kids.<br />
When we're all stuck at home, it's whatever I have picked out from our idea list.<br />
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I highly recommend making a master list for yourself of different types of things to choose from. It takes off a lot of the daily mental load!<br />
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Here's some of the categories I like to include:<br />
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Gross motor/Get Your Wiggles Out<br />
Quiet Time<br />
Family projects<br />
Movie/show/games<br />
Novelty<br />
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<b>3. Inventory what tools you already have available</b><br />
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Now that you've started thinking, go through your house and inventory what you already have to work with. Sports equipment? Art supplies? Odds and ends? Camping stuff?<br />
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Use what you find to add to your list. Here's some things we have tried and loved:<br />
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<li>Pitch a tent inside! We have a 2 person tent that can become a fort, a reading space, and endless hours of pretend play. If it's nice weather where you are, that can become a full out backyard camp ground.</li>
<li>Field Day. It's easier than it sounds. I found cones, balls, chalk, and jump ropes. We had running races, running drills when the races got teary competitive, jump rope clinics, draw crazy long loopy lines with chalk and try to tip toe the whole line.</li>
<li>Recycle Bin Crafting. I dump out the recycle bin, remove anything hazardous like sharp cans, and let the kids invent away! They can cut, draw, tape, design, tear, whatever they want. Robots, fashion creations, and creative bug habitats have happened.</li>
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<b>4. Keep some learning time, even in difficult times</b></div>
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One thing I learned from living through a house fire, was the kids needed the relief of giving their brains something else to focus on while we were displaced. Reading aloud, printing out worksheets, teaching skills I knew. Here are some of our favorite resources.</div>
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<li><b>The Library</b> Even if you can't go there physically, many libraries offer online resources you can access. Ours has free streaming content, downloadable audiobooks, ebooks, and access to learning databases for kids and adults. </li>
<li><b>PBS </b>They have a streaming app that is wonderful for getting access to what we call "learning shows" AKA Nova, Nature, and other content. <a href="https://tpt.pbslearningmedia.org/">PBS Learning Media</a> is a great resource for distance learning needs.</li>
<li><b>YouTube</b> Our favorite learning shows on YouTube are Liberty's Kids and the various farm history series from BBC featuring Ruth Goodman. Want to learn a craft or other skill? There's probably a YouTube video for that.</li>
<li><b>Project Gutenberg</b> Need any more free read alouds? <a href="http://www.gutenberg.org/wiki/Children%27s_Literature_%28Bookshelf%29#Carroll.2C_Lewis.2C_1832-1898">Project Gutenberg has thousands of free classic children's literature titles to access as ebooks for free.</a></li>
<li><b>Pinterest</b> If you have an idea you're thinking about there is probably a mom or teacher out there with a how to article on Pinterest for you. It's wonderful for finding hands on game ideas and other activities focused on a particular topic.</li>
<li><b>Your own childhood and skills.</b> Remember that odd camp song you still remember 15 years later? Your kids will likely love hearing you tell about it and teaching it to them. I've taught the kids how to juggle, how to double a recipe, how to crochet, how to sew, and how to use a screwdriver. It's empowering, bonding, and often gets a chore done, in one swoop!</li>
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<b>5. What is this "quiet time" you mentioned?</b></div>
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Parents have stuff to get done too. No shame in using some screentime! But here's some other ways to make it work for you too.</div>
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<li><b>Set boundaries.</b> Quiet time for us runs from toddler nap start to snack time at 2pm. The big kids are used to not being able to choose TV shows, get a snack, or be loud during that time. </li>
<li><b>Choices. </b>The main rules for things to do during quiet time is they must be: quiet, independent, not destructive to others or things. They are welcome to choose something like LEGOs, painting, or a board game that we can't do with the toddler tornado happening. They are encouraged to play outside independently during this time.</li>
<li><b>You are not in charge of their happiness</b>. It's a freeing concept! It's ok if they feel bored. It's not my job to provide constant stimulation. They have choices from the quiet time list (as I mentioned earlier), they know the boundaries, they are welcome to come to me with any questions or injuries. Other than that, I need to be allowed to work.</li>
<li><b>After 2pm, learning show!</b> I will often still have work that needs to happen after 2. Especially if the toddler is still napping, I love to get that done. I find documentaries are much less distracting for me than say PBS Kids. PBS documentaries typically have handy viewer ratings, so we pick one rated TV-PG or G and they can learn about something new!</li>
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<b>6. Work Together</b></div>
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Homeschool families are forced to work together a lot. Putting away laundry is a group effort. When it's cleaning windows day, I spray rags for everyone (even the two year old) and they clean what they can reach. Include the kids as much as you can in household projects and chores. Being allowed to contribute to the family is a big morale booster, and I find it's easier for kids to start talking about what's on their mind while they're working alongside you.</div>
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I've had many conversations about kid's worries and struggles while cleaning up books, hanging laundry, and tidying rooms.</div>
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It might be hard, but be willing to be honest with your kids that need you to talk straight. Gentle with the ones who are struggling with the changes in their lives. Kids are smart and they realize when something is up. But they want to be connected with you and their family. </div>
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<b>7. Set a finish line</b></div>
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I mentally need to know when I might have a chance of down time. We normally have getting ready for bed time at 7pm and kids in bed at 7:30pm. Yes, it's early. We're all normally up by 6:30am so it needs to be early, but it allows for my husband and I to actually talk to each other or watch a non-kid appropriate show/movie. </div>
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Being stuck at home all day every day for an extended period is very much a mental game. We will each need to be aware of our personal needs for mental breaks, morale boosts, and a chance to laugh. I like to work on a puzzle (jigsaw, cross word, suduku), watch a standup comedy set on streaming, make a mug cake, or snuggle up with tea and a book. </div>
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<i>I hope this is helpful for someone! Leave your ideas below in the comments.</i></div>
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Kirbyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10273803585943545418noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-232664651858738176.post-71728479141999692202020-03-10T14:12:00.000-05:002020-03-10T14:12:55.591-05:00We've Done This Before - Cancelling Mass for Outbreaks, A History<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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Viral outbreaks, epidemics, and pandemics have happened throughout human history. Some require different responses to see to the end. The Catholic Church, being a 2000+ year old institution, has seen quite a few.<br />
I've heard many Catholics, and priests, calling the closure of churches and shutting of public masses to be "unprecedented." Au contraire! There is in fact historical precedent for closing churches and avoiding large gatherings during illness outbreaks. There is also historical precedent for what happens when we decide to not follow the advice of health authorities in regards to churches.<br />
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I love me a good history tour, so join this one: cancelling mass for outbreaks, a history.<br />
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<b>1918 Pandemic Flu</b><br />
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The pandemic flu of 1918-1919 is the most recent example of the scale of global impact that we are seeing develop with COVID-19.<br />
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From Baltimore, MD: "The city’s leading Catholic clergyman continued to question why local churches were closed “while the stores, saloons, markets and the like remain open.” While recognizing public health concerns, James Cardinal Gibbons argued that “it would be a much-needed relief to our church-going population if they could be allowed to attend brief morning services… I am told that a number of calls upon our physicians are simply the result of nervousness, or the consequence of alarm. This might be considerably allayed by the reassurance of religion, and discreet words from our priests given the people in church.”<br />
This quote is from October 15, 1918, yet is almost identical to statements I have seen shared on social media in the past few weeks.<br />
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In the Fall of 1918 awareness of the virus was high, but acceptance of the need for social distancing was not.<br />
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<a href="https://academic.oup.com/cid/article/47/5/668/296225">In Spain</a> we see what happens when Catholic leaders and faithful refuse to comply with local health authorities. "Because of a strong social influence of the Bishop, the Catholic Church authorities in Zamora [Spain] stated that “the evil upon us might be a consequence of our sins and lack of gratitude, and therefore the vengeance of eternal justice felt upon us” [19, p. 149] and, subsequently, organized a series of Mass gatherings at Zamora's Cathedral. One of the likely consequences of the events was the easy spread of the virus. The attempts of civil authorities to forbid Mass gatherings were disputed by the Bishop, who accused the political and public health authorities of undue interference with the church."<br />
Zamora had the highest death toll from the pandemic flu in all of Spain, due in no small part to the refusal to accept social distancing measures. Zamora had a peak death rate of 10.1% in October 1918. Mortality in all of Spain in the same month? 3.8%<br />
Those mass gatherings to pray the virus away? They were held in October 1918.<br />
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On October 12, 1918 Rochester, NY announced the closure of all churches, including public masses. This is after steps such as cancelling confirmations and other public devotions.<a href="https://quod.lib.umich.edu/f/flu/5690flu.0008.965/1/--catholic-churches-close-bishop-issues-statement?page=root;size=150;view=image"> The bishop put a statement in the newspaper</a> encouraging the faithful to follow the direction of the health authorities, act prudently, and to pray in communion with the Church at home.<br />
Rochester would fare much better than other comparable cities in the area. <a href="https://www.influenzaarchive.org/cities/city-rochester.html#">It's excess death rate was 360 per 100,000 residents - putting it just about equal with St. Louis, MO.</a> Both cities are now held up as examples of how many lives can be saved with the early adoption of social distancing measures.<br />
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1918 too far back for you? How about May of 2018. <a href="https://www.americamagazine.org/faith/2018/06/07/catholic-church-congo-suspends-sacraments-ebola-spreads">That was when an Ebola outbreak in the Democratic Republic of the Congo led to a ban on most sacraments. </a> No baptisms, confirmations, ordinations, or anointings until further notice. <a href="https://www.ncronline.org/news/world/fear-ebola-keeps-faithful-home-congo">By September thousands of churches were closed in the hardest hit regions.</a> Communion in the hand only, if you are lucky enough to be able to receive it. The DRC is a very Catholic country, with some 650,000 of the region's 1.2 million residents are Catholic in the Ebola effected regions. That means about 650,000 Catholics have already been living without access to the sacraments for over 19 months straight due to a virus.<br />
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Did you know that outbreak just officially saw an end in sight only last week? <a href="https://www.aljazeera.com/news/2020/03/drc-ebola-patient-discharged-outbreak-sight-200304130826905.html">The discharge of the last Ebola patient, and a lack of new cases in two weeks, means the outbreak might finally be over.</a> For now.<br />
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Kirbyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10273803585943545418noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-232664651858738176.post-17467631084338094002020-01-24T12:56:00.001-06:002020-01-24T12:56:25.130-06:00Let's Talk Little Kids and Modesty<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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I'm a theater person. I've been a dancer, and now also a parent of dancers, for the past 20+ years. That's a long time to be around the performing arts, and I've seen quite a range. Over the past few years, I've gotten a lot of questions from parents wondering about dance schools for their kids. A question that comes up time and again is about modesty.<br />
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How do you deal with immodest costumes? What if you don't like the choreography? Can you adapt the costume or uniform?<br />
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Here's my radical answer to the whole premise of the question: I don't believe in modesty as a concept for young children. I think it makes far more sense to approach clothing choices for kids by asking if it's age/activity/weather appropriate.<br />
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Going to church requires a very different set of clothing choices from a day in the woods or attending Ballet class. It is not possible to decide what is or isn't age appropriate without first factoring in context.<br />
When we are talking about the dance context, the primary reasons for clothing design are 1) safety and 2) storytelling. In class, the tight fabric allows the teacher to see exactly what the student is doing, and correct any bad habits that are forming. That correction is what prevents injuries. In performance, costumes are designed to tell the story, set the time and place, and clearly indicate character.<br />
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Now is there wiggle room? Maybe. There are such things as bad design choices. If a costume is chosen that does not mesh with the age of the dancers, it is a bad choice. But I always approach those conversations from an age appropriate stance instead of one of modesty.<br />
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Why wouldn't I tell that studio director her costume choices are immodest? Because there is no uniform definition of what is modest - especially when you factor in different ages and contexts. We would easily be talking past each other. My goal is not to "win"; my goal is to reach a solution. In order to do that, I need to treat the director/costume designer/whoever is in charge with an understanding for the various factors they are juggling and a desire to be on the same page.<br />
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<b>Sometimes it's just not a good fit</b><br />
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Perhaps there's a studio that's very close to you, but they focus on a type of dance that does not fit your taste. If you're not inspired by the end goals of that school, then it's probably not the school for you. If that director thinks two piece costumes that show off little kid tummies are SO CUTE, but you're not down with it - it's probably not the school for you.<br />
Too often people interpret one school being a bad fit to mean that dance as a whole is not a good choice for kids. Please don't make that mistake (<a href="https://underthyroof.blogspot.com/2017/07/are-we-ready-to-stop-hating-on-ballet.html">but I have a whole piece on it if you want more on that topic.</a>)<br />
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Here are some ways I have seen dance schools in particular grow and improve when it comes to age appropriate choices:<br />
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<li>Having all young dancers wear their tights and a nude leotard as a base layer for their costume. They get dressed at home, the costumes get a little extra protection, and changing awkwardness is banished. Yea!</li>
<li>Some schools have moved to not even having costumes for recitals at all. Instead those are saved for larger performing opportunities, and recitals are done in their regular dance uniforms plus a hair piece or cummerbund. Budget friendly, less waste, and no worry about costume choices.</li>
<li>Learning stage make up is a necessary skill for a performer. Don't be afraid of it! There are many YouTube videos now for stage make up for the young dancer (including ones for young male dancers). Make up is necessary under stage lights, but lots of places have figured out exactly what is needed and what is not.</li>
<li>The single most powerful thing for the parent of a little performer to understand is why. Why are things done this way? Why is this useful? What is the end goal that this is all building toward? Some schools offer occasional parent lectures, observation weeks, regular teacher feedback, lending libraries, and other ways for parents to understand what their child is working on.</li>
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<i>Modesty is a huge concept! This is a particular area of my experience, but I know many other art forms and schools handle the question of modesty for young kids with very different solutions. What has worked for you? Do you do things different with your own kids than what you had growing up? Did anything I said make you think differently about modesty for young kids?</i></div>
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Kirbyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10273803585943545418noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-232664651858738176.post-45737898176629162722019-12-30T10:06:00.002-06:002019-12-30T10:06:51.101-06:002019...You Were a Doozy<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
Well 2019 was a YEAR. I've never been one to say "good riddance" to a particular year, but if I had to pick one 2019 is a solid contender.<br />
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2019 brought a house fire, being out of our home for 5 weeks, finding out we were pregnant, miscarrying, finding an ovarian cystic tumor and STILL miscarrying, miscarrying again. Lots of deaths and sickness and losses.<br />
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But it also brought my first acting castings in the Twin Cities, shooting a commercial, <a href="https://underthyroof.blogspot.com/2019/08/that-time-i-really-looked-into-catholic.html">settling into a fun new homeschool groove</a>, the kids in therapies graduating from their therapies.<br />
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Even the bad stuff brought some good stuff. Living in an extended stay hotel during the fire clean up meant we spent just about every morning at the Y. That's the only reason I was around to meet Joan, who turned out to be the great-granddaughter of the original builders of our house.<br />
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Perhaps the biggest change has been not writing publicly nearly as often as I have in the past. Partly it's a time issue (theater productions are crazy time intensive) but also because a lot more of my discussions and writing have been happening offline.<br />
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Going through back to back miscarriages this year, and being open about it online, led to an opening of shared pain and need for healing that I was not expecting. Over the past nearly 7 months of this process, I've gotten messages from women going through their first miscarriages, women still struggling with past losses, others with multiple losses, and friends of parents experiencing loss. If nothing else, this year has shown that there is still a massive unmet need for services and understanding when it comes to grief and loss.<br />
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I keep coming back to stories.<br />
My degree is in Anthropology, and I've been drawn to the power of stories for a long time.<br />
That's what I've been writing.<br />
I've been writing the story of this house and it's original family as I uncover historical documents and get information from the family. The story of my own extended family as records are released and things come to light. I've been working on lesser known saint stories and folklore theory recently (and will hopefully have something to show you about that at some point.)<br />
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Here were the top three posts from this year. They are all very story based. The best part about stories is how they are both personal and widely applicable. You'll see what I mean.<br />
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Back in March, when I had no idea just how sideways this year would get, I wrote up a piece of theater advice that I think makes parish life much better. Act boldly, be a real community.</div>
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I ended up needing to take my own advice in a big way. It's been rough and painful, but there are glimmers of hope there that will hopefully help others.</div>
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<b><a href="https://underthyroof.blogspot.com/2019/09/a-grief-continued-back-to-back.html">A Grief Continued: Back to Back Miscarriages and Taking Space</a></b></div>
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That time when I got real and concise with the internet and got wildly differing responses.</div>
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This was a popular post, but a lot of people's last post. Some felt personally called out by this one. Some felt like they couldn't handle "this darkness". Some told me they would read me again "when you're ready to be a cheerful person again."</div>
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Still there were some who let me know they had registered our babies in their parish's book of remembrance. Lots of prayers. Lots of "me too"s and "I wish I had said this during my losses".</div>
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Grief isn't fun or pretty. But as a community, and as a Church, we've got to get better at it. For the sake of our humanity.</div>
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I debated for a really long time whether to share this story.</div>
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There are many stories about our family life and personal lives that I have chosen not to share out of privacy concerns. Often because they are not my story to tell. </div>
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This one was tricky. The genetic condition that Felicity has is something I share. As far as we know I'm the first in my family to have significant hyper-mobility, and until the past few years I didn't know it was genetic. I thought this is just what happens when you've been dancing since the age of 4.</div>
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We are incredibly blessed to live in Minnesota where in home physical therapy and early intervention is free and readily available. Since this post, Felicity no longer needs her braces, has caught up with her gross motor skills, and graduated from her weekly PT. She has worked hard to be where she is now, but I know from being a few more decades down the road that this is a lifelong condition.</div>
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<i>What did 2019 bring you? Did you have a favorite story of this year? Any transformations for you?</i></div>
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Kirbyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10273803585943545418noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-232664651858738176.post-36443256250473641442019-11-25T11:10:00.000-06:002019-11-25T11:13:42.281-06:00Letting Go of Policing Advent<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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Advent is just around the corner, and perhaps the cringy-est liturgical living ghost is about to appear: the Advent Grinch.<br />
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I get it. It bothers you that December is filled with Christmas parties, sales, community events, and movies. Because it is NOT Christmas, and you DON'T want to celebrate it already.<br />
However, it's probably bad for evangelization to put down the secular world trying to participate in a season it vaguely remembers and longs to hold. It seems counterproductive to be against celebrating such an important season, even if it is done a little off time. They're trying.<br />
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Instead of making Advent a protest against the secular world celebrating imperfectly, it seems far more charitable to stop policing Advent as a negative and start celebrating it as a positive.<br />
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If you want to make sure your family is clear on the difference between Advent and Christmas, a simple way to start is embracing the penitential aspect of the season. Have you noticed how the liturgical color is purple, the same as during Lent? Advent is a "little Lent", a second preparatory and penitential season. Picking a mortification as individuals or as a family can help focus the season.<br />
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This comes with a caveat - your mortification cannot force the mortification of others. It's just unkind and negates the individual discipline of the practice. If you want to give up "going to Christmas parties during Advent" largely because you want a reason to not attend those gatherings, that might need a little more examination. Are you really doing a private mortification to prepare your heart for the coming of Christmas or are you falling into pride? Telling your friend that you aren't attending their party because it's inappropriate to have Christmas parties in Advent is probably going to embarrass your friend and cause harm to that relationship.<br />
You don't have to accept every invitation, but you do have to exercise kindness and charity.<br />
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Although we are generally able to better accept Lent will look a little different for each of us, we aren't always as generous with variation when it comes to Advent. Instead it's easy to fall into the trap of trying to do ALL THE THINGS. Jesse Tree, Advent wreath, special feast days and the feast days that don't resonate with your family.<br />
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You don't have to do any of it. It's nice, they can make good memories, but if it is causing you to be stretched thin or beat yourself up for forgetting the Jessie Tree again - maybe you're better off simplifying.<br />
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The only Advent traditions we do are the ones that have deep meaning for us, we enjoy doing, and that help us orient towards Christmas. For us St. Nicholas, St. Lucia, Ember Days, Advent wreath, and slow decorating make the cut. That's it.<br />
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We don't do much of anything for Our Lady of Guadalupe now, we don't do Jessie Tree, hunt for the baby Jesus, or many other fine and dandy traditions. What you do once does not actually mean you are trapped in celebrating in a particular way forever. Extend yourself the grace to grow and change, and it makes it easier to extend that to others.<br />
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<b>Lean into the Christmas season.</b><br />
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The single easiest way I have found to not be an Advent Grinch is to make my Christmas season radically different from Advent. We lean way into the Christmas season. The 12 Days of Christmas (Christmas to Epiphany) are both highly celebratory and laid back. We are off from school and outside classes. We make ourselves available to welcome friends and family. I prep freezer meals and cookie dough and do a deep clean during the Ember Days. That leaves me free of lots of household duties during the 12 Days of Christmas.<br />
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It doesn't need to be fancy. In fact, it probably shouldn't be fancy.<br />
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If you want some ideas for this time, you can check out my <a href="https://underthyroof.blogspot.com/2017/12/7-lists-for-your-12-days-of-christmas.html">12 lists for the 12 Days of Christmas post</a>.<br />
Haven't heard of these Ember Days I mentioned? <a href="https://underthyroof.blogspot.com/2017/03/ember-days-best-part-of-liturgical-year.html">Here's a little about them.</a><br />
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Want a breakdown of how to prep during Advent for this truly relaxing (even for mom) 12 Days of Christmas? <a href="https://underthyroof.blogspot.com/2018/11/the-moms-side-of-tips-and-tricks-for.html">Check out this post.</a><br />
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Kirbyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10273803585943545418noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-232664651858738176.post-50002959757403716672019-11-18T06:00:00.000-06:002019-11-18T06:00:08.507-06:00Was It Worth Being Open to Life When My Baby Died?<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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Last week I discussed<a href="https://underthyroof.blogspot.com/2019/11/the-worth-of-walking-down-wrong-road.html"> the worth of walking down the wrong path. In that piece I focused more on saying a full yes to one vocation, only to ultimately learn that it was not meant for me. </a>That time spent discerning was a gift instead of a waste.<br />
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It's relatively easy to accept that taking a risk on discernment will pay off somehow. But what about when the "wrong road" involves losing a child? What if it means losing multiple children? Was it still worth it?<br />
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I've <a href="https://underthyroof.blogspot.com/2019/09/a-grief-continued-back-to-back.html">shared a bit about our story from this summer.</a> A very complicated miscarriage in June that didn't end until July when we also had to do surgery to remove a cystic tumor on my ovary (unrelated to miscarriage, I'm just lucky like that.) A subsequent miscarriage in September.<br />
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I don't think it truly was a "wrong road" to have been open to those pregnancies, but it was a wrong road in the sense that it did not lead to a living baby as one would hope. Roads that lead to heartache are roads most people would rather not travel. It's not wrong to feel that.<br />
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However, I wasn't anticipating how strongly my losses would result in me being avoided. Like miscarriage is catching. Like I have a bad luck virus. Even among women who have had miscarriages, my story is odd. This particular road is rare, and, perhaps the scariest of all, unavoidable.<br />
My losses are not due to any underlying problem we have been able to identify. All three are more than likely due to bad luck. There is nothing I could have done to prevent them. There is nothing to do to avoid losing future children.<br />
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That terrifies people.<br />
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We don't like it, but it's true - being open to life will entail being open to death. Whether we accept that reality or not. A road that you thought was bordered by sunshine and daisies can turn into a nightmare in an instant. But it's still a grace to be on that road. It is better to have been open to grace and cooperating with it, than to have prevented the heartache with sameness.<br />
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Heartache is a reminder of the power and size of your yes. When your heart breaks over a sudden turn in the road, it lets you know how deeply you meant your yes. Heartache is a beautiful reminder that you were willing to become more. More open, more loving, more a follower of Christ. This is not the "be more" of Pinterest inspirational quotes. This is the being more that is our invitation to accept God can do anything. We can be more his on this hard path.<br />
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God did not intend for your baby to die. Our God is not a cruel God. I think it's important to lay that out there.<br />
The idea that this road has included loss, or losses, that furthers God's grace does not mean that you should not grieve. If anything it means grief will be so much more real.<br />
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A pothole in this road is the temptation to what I call the Pain Olympics. Comparing our pain to be greater than or less than the pain of others, and using that comparison to justify harmful behavior. This is not a healing strategy. The Pain Olympics only hands out loser awards. Even if you "win" it just means you are still hurting. We can do that without belittling the pain of others.<br />
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What I don't want to become is bitter on this road. Which does not mean I accept that the people who have reacted hurtfully in this process haven't hurt me. It's right to be hurt by hurtful things. It just means that instead of pretending these awful months didn't happen, I can use this experience to push for change. To allow the next woman walking her sudden wrong road to have someone next to her. To do the little things I can do. Cooperating with God's grace does not have to die with my babies. It can be the ultimate sign of their life.<br />
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Was this road worth it? 100% yes. Does it hurt? 100% yes.<br />
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Yes is a super power if we allow it to be.<br />
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<i>What have been some of your unexpected "wrong roads"? How have you cooperated with Grace?</i></div>
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Kirbyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10273803585943545418noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-232664651858738176.post-85083128734402300192019-11-11T09:00:00.000-06:002019-11-11T09:00:02.876-06:00The Worth of Walking Down the Wrong Road<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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"I don't want it to have been a waste of time."<br />
"I'm not sure if it will pay off."<br />
"How can I be positive God is calling me?"<br />
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These are probably the top three responses I hear in discussions about discernment. They are the same responses when the discussion is about discerning a primary vocation, deciding to start a new venture, or listening for another kind of calling.<br />
<b>The underlying fear is the same: no one wants to start down the wrong road.</b><br />
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But what makes something "the wrong road" when you are choosing between good things?<br />
I think most of us assume that any path that does not end in our eventual calling was a wrong road.<br />
What if God might be calling you to walk one path for a while, but not arrive at your anticipated destination? What if it's not about finding out God's big picture plan, but more of a practice in letting him walk with you on every path?<br />
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This changes things. Now it's less about being sure and confident of God's will, and more being willing to come along on the adventure.<br />
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There have been two big roads in my life that could have been considered a wrong road, but have been incredibly important in shaping me, my faith life, and my vocation: my time spent discerning a religious vocation, and my miscarriages.<br />
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I'll cover the miscarriages in part 2, but I wanted to talk about discerning the religious life in particular today.<br />
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I wrote some<a href="https://underthyroof.blogspot.com/2016/11/thoughts-on-vocations-from-wannabe-nun.html"> thoughts on vocations as a wannabe nun called to marriage</a> a while back. A question I got a lot from sharing that story was: Do you regret spending all that time discerning when the answer was no?<br />
No, I think it was still worth doing, and I encourage everyone to discern this particular path if at all possible. I didn't get too far along in the process of actually entering an order, but I have friends who became postulates, took temporary vows, and spent years pursuing the religious life vocation only to discern out. Did they take a "wrong road"?<br />
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Religious discernment is not just a single person talking God's ear off until they get a yes or no answer. It involves a deep awareness of self, an honest evaluation of strengths and weaknesses, and relationships with a whole host of people. I think everyone can agree all of those things are well worth doing in order to grow into a mature adult faith. Doing so in a religious community brings with it a fundamentally changed relationship between the discerning person and Jesus and his Church.<br />
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When a woman discerns a religious vocation, she is discerning marriage with Jesus. That is, at a basic level, what is happening.<br />
Want to start seeing God as a person and not just a far off in the sky being? Try dating him.<br />
To discern out means reaching a point where Jesus lets you know that you are not meant to become a Bride of Christ. It's awful and wonderful.<br />
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Those of us who discerned out will forever have a relationship with Jesus that has a different kind of intimacy. I have personally found a connection with others who discerned the religious life. There is a grace that comes from the act of putting the question to God "Is this what you want of me?"<br />
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Regrets don't come from the good you were open to pursuing, they come from failing to ask the question out of fear of the what ifs.<br />
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<i>Check back next week for Part 2 and what this all means when applied to being open to life and losing your baby. Especially multiple times.</i></div>
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Kirbyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10273803585943545418noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-232664651858738176.post-40717006059323871172019-09-27T09:10:00.000-05:002019-09-27T09:10:03.024-05:00A Grief Continued - Back to Back Miscarriages and Taking Space<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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It happened again. For the third time we have lost another pregnancy.<br />
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This makes two just this summer.<br />
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When I had our first miscarriage in between our second and third born children, I believed the whole song and dance of how this is common but it probably won't happen again. I am very good at winning all the wrong lotteries, so leave it to me to beat the odds here.<br />
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Grief is a long process, but it is nearly impossible to heal when the traumas keep coming. Factors are different with these two losses that pose their own challenges for healing. A key difference between our first loss and these last two is we are now part of an extremely fertile parish. It's babies and pregnant women everywhere and all the time - including many who share(d) my due window.<br />
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When we had our house fire in the early Spring, no one would have put me in a position of having to talk about fires and house renovations at every gathering. Certainly no one would have decided other fire victims would be best to facilitate our healing. Because that's tacky, insensitive, and, to a great extent, illogical.<br />
But that's what we do around pregnancy loss.<br />
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When you are living a nightmare, it's extremely hard to relate.<br />
Right now, I don't want to hear your complaints about your perfectly healthy pregnancy when my babies are dead.<br />
I'm not ready to push through my grief for the sake of your joy.<br />
I don't want to see the growing bellies of all the women who would have been pregnant with me. There are zero ways for that to not make me flashback to the losses.<br />
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If this is sounding like trauma and raw wounds - it's because it is. This entire summer I have been a living breathing war zone and burial ground.<br />
I wish wearing morning dress was still a thing. At least then I would have a way to externally signal to the world that I'm not ok, handle with care. Instead I look like a mom with three young kids who can totally handle one more thing.<br />
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To a great extent, I am bearing it well. I'm getting up every morning. I show up when scheduled. I smile. I joke. I talk about other things. I teach my kids. I handle new projects. I go where I am needed.<br />
But I'm not ok.<br />
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"Just because you carry it all so well, doesn't mean it's not heavy."<br />
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This is heavy. This has been going on since June 1st, y'all. Yet I, and many of the other people around you silently suffering losses, feel intense pressure to be fine. To be normal. To be recovered.<br />
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I don't know about everyone, but I don't recover well without space. Space is something I haven't had much of over the past four months.<br />
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This past week, my husband and I took a couples getaway to the North Shore on Lake Superior. This trip had been planned since July, when it became apparent that we needed something to look forward to in this summer of grief. I had no idea it would end up being the week after yet another loss.<br />
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It was three days of extremely limited internet and phone access. Spending nearly all day outside. Having time and space with just our marriage.<br />
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I came home feeling much more connected with my husband, but so much more averse to pretending with everyone else. Instead of feeling like I could take on reconnecting to the level I was pre-back to back losses, I feel the need to reclaim space.<br />
Grief makes you feel small and insignificant. It makes you recoil and shy away from being "too" anything. It leads you to act like your person is less than everyone else. Not in a virtuous humble way, in a way that doesn't acknowledge your own dignity.<br />
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So for at least the next 4 months, the rough amount of time I have spent miscarrying just this year, I am going to reclaim my space. It's time to acknowledge that while my pregnant friends do not mean to make things hard for me, it is hard to be around right now. They didn't ask for that anymore than I asked to be a multiple loss mom, but here we are regardless. I have come to realize it's more spiritually expensive to pretend fine and let resentment build up. Sometimes taking a pause is the option of minimal harm.<br />
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Here are the 7 things I wish people knew in this time of prolonged loss and grief.<br />
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1. <b>Communication is key.</b> It's a lot of mental and emotional bandwidth to do all the communication from my end. It's incredibly helpful when people reach out and check in, or check their perceptions, without me having to initiate everything myself.<br />
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2. <b>Silence isn't a rebuff, it might be a pause. </b>I'm still homeschooling and juggling all kinds of things on my end. I often don't get the time or energy to respond to communications until a break in the day or the week. Be patient with me.<br />
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3. <b>See the whole person.</b> I love going to young adult events right now. Not just because they tend to be attended by people unlikely to spring a surprise pregnancy announcement. With young adults, I get asked about myself as a person. Not solely as a mom. It's a blessed break to talk about history, current events, hobbies, or all the many things that are a part of me.<br />
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4. <b>I'm still postpartum. </b>There is, rightfully, a huge amount of grace extended to women in the months after giving birth. My body has gone through massive hormonal shifts, surgery, stress, and a whole pile of struggles just like any other postpartum mom. But because I don't have a cute baby to show for it, it is very easy to forget I'm still a person going through a postpartum recovery.<br />
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5. <b>Having first trimester losses carries it's own kind of trauma</b>. I have no grave to visit. There are no sonogram pictures of my living babies. The lack of closure there is something that doesn't go away.<br />
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6. <b>Grief and loss impacts every part of my life right now.</b> I don't have the reserves to deal with people reacting badly. I have barely written because I can't deal with the trolls and people just having a bad day at me.<br />
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7. <b>This isn't forever, but it is my now.</b> I couldn't tell you when it won't physically hurt to be around pregnant women. I wish I knew too.<br />
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Kirbyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10273803585943545418noreply@blogger.com7tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-232664651858738176.post-25323971711798710502019-08-22T09:11:00.002-05:002019-08-22T09:11:28.049-05:00That Time I Really Looked into Catholic Unschooling - Homeschool Plan 2019-2020<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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This summer was hard on our family. Between the <a href="https://underthyroof.blogspot.com/2019/06/how-i-do-grief-blogging-thoughts.html">longest miscarriage ever</a>, surprise ovarian surgery, solo parenting stints, and recovering from the<a href="https://underthyroof.blogspot.com/2019/03/we-had-house-fire-and-lent-is-still.html"> house fire last spring</a> - it felt like life just kept coming back for more blood. Getting ready to start our school year, and the first homeschooling year with two kids in for-realsies grades, I felt overwhelmed, burned out, and done. And I hadn't even started yet.<br />
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It was clear that something needed to change. I responded to that need in proper nerd fashion: looking into all the options - be they weird, fringe, or otherwise out of my norm. Catholic unschooling came across my rader, and for the first time I actually considered it's merits.<br />
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To be clear, we are not actually going all in on unschooling. We are still using the structure and curriculum choices through <a href="https://modg.org/">Mother of Divine Grace</a>. However, it made since to re-assess how we went about implementing MODG using some of the things that can be learned from unschooling families.<br />
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Some ideas I came across I was not ok with accepting, but there were others that resonated with me.<br />
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<b>Skill subjects vs. content subjects</b><br />
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While I knew the distinction of skill subjects and content subjects from my own experience as a homeschooled kid, I realized I wasn't acting the distinction that well in my practice of homeschooling my own children.<br />
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Some subjects work well most of the time with consistent daily practice that follows a logical sequence - these are the skill subjects. Math is an obvious one, but others like grammar, spelling, music theory, art, languages have at least parts of their study that are skill based.<br />
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Other subjects are about acquiring content knowledge. At least the early grades of science, history, some literature, art, geography are all content subjects. These are subjects that are perhaps best done with what I call guided exploration. Our studies for science, history, some geography, and lots of arts and literature, are being approached with less structured school time. Instead we grow and explore together a wide variety of topics in those subjects based one what the kids, or I, are interested in learning. That means lots of documentaries, field trips, experiments, library trips, and learning alongside my children.<br />
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<b>When We School</b><br />
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In order to implement that unschooling exploratory style, an essential ingredient is needed - time. There has to be time for ideas to grow and percolate. Time for field trips. Time for talking and being with each other so that I, as their teacher and parent, can understand where their interest might be leading and how I can best facilitate their growth.<br />
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Which means we have shifted almost all of our book time to be after lunch, leaving the mornings open. This is the most likely time we have for getting out of the house, and finding the energy that exploratory learning involves. Since my oldest is just 2nd grade, this isn't too terribly difficult to do. Even when you consider additional reading practice, his work Monday through Thursday takes about two hours, max.<br />
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Shifting to afternoon lessons is important for another aspect of family functioning:<br />
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<b>What to do with the active toddler</b><br />
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When we schooled mostly in the morning, the toddler was her worst self. She wasn't getting to play with her siblings as much, she was only happy drawing or doing other activities for about 20 minutes, and school was taking longer for the big kids due to the incessant interruptions.<br />
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So now we are mostly doing book work during her nap time.<br />
The mornings with exploratory learning are much easier to include her in our learning. She gets lots of active time and loving on by everyone. That time of learning alongside each other, and investment into our family culture first, makes a huge different in everyone's attitude.<br />
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Book work goes much faster when I'm not cajoling anyone to "just get it done". Everyone from the quality time loving kids to my very touchy kids have had their love tanks filled.<br />
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<b>But what about the book list?</b><br />
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This unschooling/homeschooling mashup is doable right now in large part because we were starting from a curriculum that emphasizes the parent/child connection and flexibility between kids. <a href="https://underthyroof.blogspot.com/2017/06/choosing-mother-of-divine-grace.html">When you are starting from a place of guiding the child through the good, true, and beautiful</a>, it is simple to take advantage of the multiple roads available for that journey.<br />
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We still use the reading list as our starting point, but end up reading far beyond it.<br />
I still find the choices for math curriculum, handwriting, and other skill subjects to work for us.<br />
But I needed to break up my mental idea that I was married to those choices.<br />
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So far I have had kids that have widely different places of struggle and ease when it comes to their learning. Embracing that sometimes what you need is fine tuning, instead of a wholesale do over, has been very freeing this year.<br />
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<i>Are you changing things up this year? What have you done to make your days better when circumstances change?</i></div>
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Kirbyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10273803585943545418noreply@blogger.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-232664651858738176.post-24010667212394147122019-07-30T09:36:00.001-05:002019-07-30T09:36:59.577-05:00So Why Don't You Have a Library Card?<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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I have been shocked to learn how many adults in my community don't have a library card. There is this odd assumption that libraries are great when you're a kid, but there's not much to offer to the busy adult.<br />
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Besides the fact that I think <a href="https://underthyroof.blogspot.com/2018/02/i-dont-have-time-to-read-and-other.html">reading is an absolutely necessary part of exercising our gift of mind</a>, libraries have grown well beyond the place that holds some books.<br />
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Here is just a sampling of the unconventional ways my own library system benefits adults.<br />
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<b>1 Databases galore</b><br />
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JSTOR is back in my life, y'all! Many libraries subscribe to databases and online resources that are a hidden gold mine. Our library system includes databases of professional dance performances, the National Geographic library back to 1888, and Theater in Video.<br />
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Free or heavily discounted passes to museums and performances are becoming a more common library offering. We've been to the <a href="https://underthyroof.blogspot.com/2016/09/california-academy-of-sciences-with-kids.html">California Academy of Sciences</a>, Lawrence Hall of Science, and Oakland Museum of California for free when we lived in the Bay Area. Our library in Minnesota includes passes to local theaters, symphony, nature sites, and museums. These are often for 2 people so you can bring a friend!<br />
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Sorting for Printed Music gives me over 50,000 music scores in my immediate county library system alone. They're not just musicals and classical pieces - Pink Floyd, Coldplay, Mumford & Sons, and Fleetwood Mac are in there too. Practicing your instrument (or learning one) just got a lot more appealing.<br />
Scripts are a common find too. They include play scripts, screen plays, and radio plays. No need to wait for your local theaters to finally put on a play you've been wanting to see! Yes, it's not the same as a staged version, but reading plays is another wonderful way to tap into the legacy of storytelling.<br />
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I can learn a lot from YouTube, but Youtube can't look at my work, troubleshoot it, and give me the materials - all for free. In the past year I've learned needle felting and crochet via free library craft classes. Jewelry making, ribbon embroidery, and weaving in the round are other classes I've seen.<br />
Many libraries offer knitting clubs, crafternoon (yes that's a real thing), and other gatherings where you can work and learn from others.<br />
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When I'm in heavy audition seasons and driving alllll the time, free audio books from the library are my jam. My library uses the Libby app. From there I can browse, check out, and return all from my phone. If I happen to hate the voice of the reader, or am just not into the book, I don't feel bad for returning it early. It was free!<br />
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History resources at the library are not just for genealogists anymore (though there are still a lot of offerings for family history research.) I was able to download a high resolution map showing my house from 1874 directly from the library website. Historic photography collections are available there. Many local historic societies are digitizing their collections, and making them available to the library.<br />
My favorite odd history find is the collection of historic menus. Hundreds of menus from local restaurants dating from 1880s to the 1970s. In theory I could re-create the Christmas menu of the Curtis Hotel from 1933. Knowledge is power.<br />
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Maybe you want to try out a book club, but don't know what to pick, write questions, or commit to everyone buying a book. The library has your back! Many offer book club kits. These are a set of 8-10 copies of a single title that check out for 6 weeks. Most come with questions and other resources for your group. Having a neighborhood book club has never been easier.<br />
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Resources that I have seen in other libraries include: puzzle exchange, author talks, and 3D printer access. Libraries have grown well beyond book browsing and toddler storytime.<br />
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It's summer, for now.<br />
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It's marching on to back to school time.<br />
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It feels a little like the world is sailing by, and maybe, just maybe, you feel like you missed out.<br />
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This feeling probably comes up a lot. Sometimes in little ways - sneaking in via your friend's vacation photos or sitting silently in a discussion of the latest TV show/movie/book you haven't seen or read.<br />
Sometimes it's in big ways. The pregnancy announcements that pop up after yet another negative test. The supportive/non-destructive in-laws your friends have that just aren't in the cards for you.<br />
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Well meaning friends and family try to tell you that "your time will come" or "it will happen for you."<br />
Let's be honest here, it might not.<br />
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That life ideal that you are hoping and dreaming and working toward? It might not happen. At least not in the way you initially pictured.<br />
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It's a fine line between accepting the reality that your dream might not happen and wallowing in it. It's so easy to think "why bother?" if your goal might be unattainable.<br />
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I'm completely guilty of this too. Back in May I was thinking I would be wrapping up my show toward the end of June. Then it would be an open summer of family fun, weekend adventures, and time to catch up with all the friends I haven't seen over the past many months of theater work. I would be showing more in my pregnancy by then, so theater auditions for the late summer and fall were off the table.<br />
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Then I started bleeding on June 1st. Suddenly all those plans I made around the assumption there would be prenatal appointments, a 20 week scan, and a kicking baby, died.<br />
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Then six weeks later it still wasn't over. Last week I had to have a D&C anyway (which makes my miscarriage longer than the time I was pregnant by more than two weeks, y'all.)<br />
They found a badly behaved ovarian cystic tumor too. Thankfully benign.<br />
But that surgery means I will have officially been miscarrying and recovering the entire summer. I'm not allowed to go in lakes or pools. I can't train at the level I need to in order to get back out on the audition circuit.<br />
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It is so stinking easy to wallow. To hate what my life is this summer. To be frustrated with God. To desire desperately to know why.<br />
But none of that will change my fantastically unlucky roll of the biological dice.<br />
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So instead I'm trying to do what I can.<br />
I can't train my body, but I can train my mind. The library is my favorite online shopping.<br />
I can't swim or do any summer water sports, but I can visit the lake and enjoy it anyway.<br />
I'm not traveling anywhere, but I can make myself a fun new cocktail and have a little porch vacation after kids are in bed.<br />
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I don't have much agency over my body right now, but I can do many other things. There are still things to learn, people to meet, dreams to have, and hopes to nurture.<br />
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Find what you can do out of where you are right now. Your friends aren't having a great summer at you, but they might not know how to be with you. Grow your base of interests and reach out from there.<br />
Don't hate unfollow because the comparison struggle runs deep. See if there is a gem of an idea you can use from that person.<br />
Live your life on the margins of what you think is possible. No one gets stronger from playing it safe and familiar.<br />
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We've all heard it. The how-I-became-a-better-person story in every self-help genre book. It normally starts with a tale of woe about how awful they were, how not enough, how behind, and how horrible the world was for them.<br />
Maybe it's true, maybe some people have to hit their own rock bottom before making a change. But every time I read these stories I wonder how much more encouraging they would be if the self-loathing wasn't such an integral starting point?<br />
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Like what would happen if women (because let's be real, that's the typical target audience of these stories) could hear story after story of people making a change in their life out of a place of acceptance?<br />
What if instead of fad dieting, in its many forms, we ate food for nourishment and in connection with other people?<br />
Couldn't there be balance in our activities?<br />
Making a change out of a desire to grow, instead of a desire to run away from our now-selves?<br />
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I think what's missing from most of the writing of self-help authors is a knowledge of the goodness and inherent dignity of each person. They're missing God.<br />
Which isn't to say they don't respect the people they are writing for - clearly they think we are capable of becoming more than what we are. They just miss the point where without an understanding of the humanity end game, it's very hard to travel to that destination.<br />
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Most self help books fail to answer why we should want become what the author is proposing. Yes, sometimes it's wrapped up in studies showing why we should make this change, but those are often less convincing when investigated. Too often the author is arguing we should remake ourselves in their own image.<br />
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I have a favorite quote from St. Anthony of Padua on the subject - yes the guy you pray to to help you find lost stuff. Many don't know that St. Anthony was a prolific writer, and we still have many of his homilies and talks. He has a beautiful perspective on how to approach becoming our best selves:<br />
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<b><i>"</i><span style="text-align: left;"><i>Do you want to have God always in your mind? Be just as he made you to be. Do not go seeking another ‘you’. Do not make yourself otherwise than he made you. Then you will always have God in mind."</i></span></b></div>
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What St. Anthony gets, and most self-help books don't, is in order to become our truest selves we must have a complete understanding of reality. An understanding of truth that leads us to see ourselves completely and fully as who we are. We have to seek ourselves to seek God, and seek God as we seek ourselves.</div>
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That means we can't buy someone else's prepackaged wellness religion. We can't shut off whole parts of ourselves. It often means leading a very different life from our friends and loved ones.</div>
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But we get something so much better.</div>
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We get to love others without the comparison, envy, and eventually hatred that comes from loathing ourselves. </div>
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We get to take perfection out of its oppressive, perverted, usage and reclaim it for it's truth - that seeking perfection is seeking God who is perfect. </div>
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We can take all of the anxiety and worry and pressures we have heaped on our shoulders, and notice that it's never been our burden. That was never meant to be there.</div>
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We are meant for love, we are meant for God, and we are meant to be who were created to be.</div>
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Seeking his path and truth is the image I want to discover in myself. It does take work. It does take effort. It sometimes looks like getting my butt to the gym and eating well. <a href="https://underthyroof.blogspot.com/2018/02/i-dont-have-time-to-read-and-other.html">It does mean making time to read and continuing to nurture my mind</a>. But that only stays helpful if I am seeking the me God sees. Because I am already who he loves - this isn't about making myself good enough for God. It's about learning to see myself in God's truth.</div>
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Kirbyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10273803585943545418noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-232664651858738176.post-84098710846093420572019-06-14T12:29:00.000-05:002019-06-14T12:29:11.587-05:00How I Do Grief + Blogging Thoughts<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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I have a particular need to do something meaningful, or tackle a project that has been forgotten, when I'm grieving a loss. Really any loss, but especially a death.</div>
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It's why my house looks oddly clean for someone morning her child.</div>
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And why you are likely to find the entire contents of a closet or drawer on the kitchen table while I re-organize spaces that have bugged me for months.</div>
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When things are happening that are not in my control, it helps to make my surroundings just a little better.</div>
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If not apparent from the above, I'm awful at resting.</div>
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I'm a slow physical healer and I know the need to rest is a thing for promoting better healing. But I hate it. I hate feeling like my body can't let me live my life.</div>
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With books!</div>
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But not fiction. For some reason I have a decided distaste for most fiction, and it gets bad in grief times. When there is so much to process, and so many things I can never know or understand, I love me some thick history books. </div>
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History is knowable, verifiable, and enlightening for the present. Understanding a little more about something beyond my own grief is what lets me be ok laying in bed when I'm supposed to do so.</div>
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Tea is amazing.</div>
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I still love my coffee, but for some reason Earl Grey tea has been my jam during this time. Hot drinks, even in summer, remains an important tool for reminding myself to pause.</div>
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Then there's writing.</div>
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I do keep a bullet journal and do some writing processing that way, but this time around I haven't been as inclined to write about it on the blog. I know the words might come eventually, but I'm deciding it's also ok to not share everything with the internet (as lovely as y'all are.)</div>
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Speaking of the blog, Kelly at This Ain't the Lyceum wrote about <a href="https://thisaintthelyceum.org/blogging-the-side-hustle-vs-leisure-time/">blogging as a side hustle vs. leisure as her 7 Quick Takes today</a>. If you can't tell by the fact that I'm still a proud blogspot.com URL user in 2019, this is not a side hustle blog. </div>
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Growing the blog was never about getting well known, getting my writing out there, making money, or launching a career (which is good because I'd say most of that has not happened.) I've always written this blog hoping to reach just one person who needed to hear it. Just to let one person know they were not the only person on this Earth who shares their struggle, concern, or perspective. Just let one person not feel so alone.</div>
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"Grow enough to reach the one" is basically what I do around here.</div>
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I did have a goal to participate in community better, perhaps via the blog, back when this all started in 2015. Sometimes I forget how successful the internet has been in that regard.</div>
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Going through another miscarriage has brought that reminder.</div>
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Far away internet friends have sent cards and restaurant gift cards. I've relied on books written by fellow bloggers to help me through this. Priest friends read the update and offered prayers and liturgies for our baby.</div>
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Over the years there have been conference meet ups, skill shares, Facebook groups, and messaging friends I only know from the internet when I happen to be traveling through their town to ask them to get coffee. It can sometimes be weird to be so invested in people I've never met in person, but thank you to all the people who have said yes to hanging out with me. </div>
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The ones who keep coming back even when I float away from speaking to your specific season of life. Thanks for riding on this journey with me.</div>
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Kirbyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10273803585943545418noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-232664651858738176.post-78062068183615655702019-06-11T14:42:00.000-05:002019-06-11T14:42:30.551-05:00The Power of the True Story<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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Have you ever considered how many stories were instrumental in shaping your family, neighborhood, environment, and your personal experience? How many of those stories left their mark but were not told to you?<br />
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The families that have lived in your home before you.<br />
The parishioners who built your church.<br />
The long gone loved ones who changed the people who raised you.<br />
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In the true story, the lived story, there are true surprises. Little details can really surprise the main characters.<br />
I'm an awful theater person when watching a play or movie. I'm always on the look out for the whys. In a scene that has been edited, work shopped, rehearsed, and choreographed - nothing happens without a reason. It's nearly always possible for me to get a scene or two ahead in the story just by paying attention to the little details.<br />
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But in real life those little details have unforeseeable and lasting consequences. They can't always be anticipated even by the most observant person.<br />
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Those little, personal, details manage to speak to seemingly unrelated stories. The story of the mom going through chemotherapy while homeschooling her kids can speak deeply to the story of the mom experiencing Hyperemesis Gravidarum with young children at home. Yes, their experiences are not identical, but both are going through a time of intense life change that is largely outside of their ability to control. There are multiple subjects within their stories that ARE shared: coping strategies, emotional and physical care coordination, keeping kids busy when you have intense needs.<br />
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The true story remains true, even when the specifics diverge. That means the story of a person who looks radically different from me can still speak to my life and struggles.<br />
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How cool is that?!<br />
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Once you start to gain an appreciation for the true story, it becomes a lot harder to shut people out. Because all of those people can now potentially speak to your story, despite what appears to be polar opposite situations. No longer can you compare the checklist of external identifiers to determine if this person has anything to share that will speak to your life. It makes telling these true stories, discovering the personal side of history and society, an extremely powerful tool for building empathy and entering into communion with each other.<br />
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Telling a story is not just about the subject of the story - it also tells a lot about the storyteller. I am not going to tell a story in exactly the same way as you might. Different aspects will speak strongly to me that might not have even been noticeable to you. The aspects of a story that I choose to highlight say a lot about what I see as important and how I view the subject of the story. When I write about <a href="https://underthyroof.blogspot.com/2019/04/alabama-to-arkansas-cool-historic.html">a priest who was murdered by the KKK</a> or <a href="https://underthyroof.blogspot.com/2019/05/california-to-connecticut-cool-historic.html">a woman who became a modern day anchoress</a>, I'm not trying to write the most accurate story possible (even though everything is accurate to the best of my knowledge), I am writing to convey something I find important within this person's life story.<br />
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The historical is personal, for history is made up of the story of persons. It lets us practice seeing the trials and surprises of life in a bigger context. In the context of the human story.<br />
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Some updates.</div>
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I have LOVED writing the<a href="https://underthyroof.blogspot.com/2019/04/cool-historic-catholics-of-america.html"> Cool Historic Catholics of America series</a>. But I don't know if y'all have noticed, but it's going to take a looooooong time to release all 51 stories via blog posts. Even with doing 3-4 at a time. Like over a year long.</div>
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Before starting to write this series, I did identify someone for each of the 50 states plus Washington DC. If your state hasn't come up yet, I DO have someone for you.</div>
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I want to finish telling you some of the stories of Catholics and the Catholic story in the US, but I am going to pause and rethink how best to do that. Stay tuned!</div>
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If you follow me on <a href="https://www.facebook.com/underthyroof/">Facebook</a> or especially <a href="https://www.instagram.com/underthyroof/">Instagram</a> you have probably heard that we recently lost our baby (and that pregnancy announcement was the last thing I published on this blog). Recovery is very long and slow, and it's going to be a little touch and go for a bit here. I am still active and writing when I am up to it. If you're interested in updates, most of those will probably be on Instagram and sometimes Facebook.</div>
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Thank you to everyone who has reached out, prayed, showed up. Just all of it. Thank you.</div>
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Kirbyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10273803585943545418noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-232664651858738176.post-91104233251047730182019-05-21T09:04:00.000-05:002019-05-21T09:04:30.027-05:00Yes, This is an Announcement<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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We interrupt your regularly scheduled history programming (which I would love to hear your thoughts about the <a href="https://underthyroof.blogspot.com/2019/04/alabama-to-arkansas-cool-historic.html">three</a> <a href="https://underthyroof.blogspot.com/2019/05/california-to-connecticut-cool-historic.html">installments</a> <a href="https://underthyroof.blogspot.com/2019/05/delaware-to-georgia-cool-historic.html">so far</a>) to bring you this special announcement:<br />
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We're Expecting!!!<br />
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Baby #4 is due a little after Christmas. Which in my case will probably mean January.<br />
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This baby is a lot of firsts for us.<br />
The first baby to be born in Amelia Hill House.<br />
The first winter baby (like send all the tips for surviving a postpartum in the middle of a Minnesota winter!)<br />
The first baby where I get to have the same care provider as a prior birth.<br />
The first baby who will be born in the middle of our homeschool year.<br />
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I love that even this many kids in, the firsts keep rolling and it's still exciting.<br />
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Kids reactions were as follows:<br />
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John and Therese - fist pumps, whoops, hollers, bets on gender (guess which one John wants so bad!)<br />
Felicity - "No....no baby...................tummy?"<br />
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So she's getting there.<br />
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I'm feeling pretty good. The early pregnancy fatigue means these late night rehearsals are kicking my butt. And it's not even Tech weeks yet! (For non-theater speaking people: Tech is when you add in all the costumes, lights, and sound, and make your actors stay very late very frequently. It's the period where everyone starts to hate each other just a little bit. It's the necessary time before the show opens and suddenly we all LOVE this cast and NEVER want it to end! It's a thing.)<br />
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This baby and Felicity will be just slightly further apart than John and Therese. I liked that spacing so hopefully it works well again.<br />
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It's going to be quite the Christmas season this year!<br />
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Kirbyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10273803585943545418noreply@blogger.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-232664651858738176.post-17909480760702469382019-05-14T08:43:00.002-05:002019-05-14T08:43:39.450-05:00Delaware to Georgia - Cool Historic Catholics of America<div dir="ltr" style="text-align: left;" trbidi="on">
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<i>All of the following examples of Cool Historic Catholics lived in times of transition. We're going to touch on a little of what life was like for a Catholic living in the British colonies and the early United States, our ancestors who were martyred for their faith in La Florida, and another part of the story of combating racial injustice during the early part of the 20th century.</i></div>
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We're going back to Colonial America!<br />
Your experience as a Catholic living in the American Colonies was highly dependent on in which colony you lived. In only four of the original colonies were Catholics not suppressed, banned, or under civil disabilities by 1785: Pennsylvania, Maryland, Virginia, and Delaware. Anti-Catholic sentiment, and restricting laws, didn't loosen in most colonies until the Revolutionary War made the new Americans rather dependent on the Catholic French. (Funny how easy it is to hate a group until you need them.)<br />
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Surprisingly, despite this history of being somewhat of a haven for non-Protestants, Delaware had very few people to appear in my search! So we're going to talk about an early priest who is notable not so much by what he did, but by the records he left behind.<br />
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In the<a href="https://books.google.com/books?id=uFA8AAAAIAAJ&printsec=frontcover&source=gbs_atb#v=onepage&q&f=false"> Records of the American Catholic Historical Society of Philadelphia from 1896</a>, there is found a biography, and excerpts from the diary, of Fr. Patrick Kenny.<br />
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Fr. Patrick Kenny was born in Ireland in 1763, and arrived at the port of Wilmington, Delaware in the summer of 1804. The heat of American summer was overwhelming, and the priest immediately tried to secure passage back home on the same ship. But a full passenger list thwarted his plans. So he began life as an itinerant priest.<br />
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Itinerant priests were very common in the early days of the US. Catholic communities were often sparse and spread far apart from each other. Most were poor farmers and could not afford to support a priest alone. Priests came exclusively from overseas, as the first Catholic seminary in the US was not founded until 1822 - leaving the total number of priests in the dozens to serve thousands spread throughout the land. These priests lived by going from community to community. Most stayed for a time with various Catholic families, and communities paid a small subscription to the priest to come and say mass and perform sacraments for their community. Masses at this time were often performed in homes.<br />
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Fr. Kenny regularly attended five stations, and one church, spread between two states (Delaware and Pennsylvania). After a few years of living this essentially homeless life, Fr. Kenny bought a farm, located at Coffee Run, in 1808 from the Jesuits. The order had been under papal suppression since 1773, and were unable to staff their US mission areas (which is a much longer story for another time!) Fr. Kenny decided that the old Jesuit mission could be used as a future center to serve the Catholics of Delaware.<br />
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It was at Coffee Run that the first Catholic church was established in Delaware. It was a log mission church built in 1790. The cemetery was established then, and it is all that remains of the original site today due to arson.<br />
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His diary gives a real, rough, picture of what life was like for those early priests. They were constantly moving, working in rough conditions, and managing many different communities. Small as the American Catholic community was, they managed to have their fair share of controversies and struggles. Itinerant priests could find themselves stuck in the middle of a fight that both exasperated them and they felt responsibility for settling. Sickness was frequent, food often short, and the weather hard.<br />
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Fr. Kenny died in 1840 at the age of 79 following a stroke, and was buried at Coffee Run - next to the church he had pastored for nearly 40 years.<br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">Florida - <a href="https://www.martyrsoflafloridamissions.org/martyrs">Martyrs of La Florida</a></span><br />
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We tend to think of the American story as starting in 1607 with Jamestown, Virginia, but the American Catholic story in Florida begins much earlier.<br />
A Spanish mission in St. Augustine, Florida was founded in 1565, but the Dominican order attempted to start a mission near Tampa Bay in 1549.<br />
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In total there are 54 martyrdom events of La Florida under investigation. Some are for one martyr, others are for multiple martyrs. The specific events under Vatican investigation start with the Dominicans in 1549 and end with the martyrdom of three Apalachee natives killed protecting the Eucharist in 1761.<br />
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Although there were diocesan priests serving in La Florida at the time, all of the Proto-martyrs (between 1549 and 1597) were members of three Catholic orders: Dominican, Jesuit, or Franciscan. 1647 marks the date that native Christians began to be martyred, starting in Apalachee.<br />
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1697 to 1707 were particularly bloody. Many massacres, brutal attacks, and destruction of many missions. This period includes the lead martyr for the causes of the Martyrs of La Florida - Antonio Cuipa. He was an Apalachee layman particularly devoted to St. Joseph who would die tied to a cross in an English led raid in 1704.<br />
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Reasons for attacks on missions and Christians varied. Sometimes it was neighboring tribes who objected to the new religion for a variety of reasons, but many were due to slave raids. Growing English presence in the north led to a growing demand for slave labor. Tribes raiding each other for slaves to sell were frequent.<br />
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When the Catholic Church investigates martyrdom events, she requires all documents to be sealed during the investigation. I'm looking forward to learning more from the historical sources when they become available as this case moves forward. I encourage you to see the <a href="https://www.martyrsoflafloridamissions.org/martyrs">website for the martyrdom cause</a> as they go into as much detail as is available for each of the 54 martyrdom events.<br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">Georgia - <a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ignatius_Lissner">Fr. Ignatius Lissner, S.M.A.</a></span><br />
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This is the story of a French born Catholic priest who would be a game changer for black Catholics in the US.<br />
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Ignatius was born in the Alsace region of France in 1867. His father was the descendant of Polish Jews, and he had converted to Catholicism. Out of the nine children in Ignatius' family, five would grow up to enter Church service. Ignatius was drawn to the priesthood early. He entered minor seminary and would continue his theology studies at the major seminary in Leon. He was ordained in 1891 at the age of 24.<br />
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Fr. Lissner was ordained a member of the <a href="http://smafathers.org/">Society of African Missions</a> - a missionary society dedicated to serving the people of Africa and people of African descent throughout the world. His first assignment was in Whydah in the Kingdom of Dahomey (now Benin). Much of the documentation from this period has been lost. We know he stayed in Whydah about five years, he began traveling through the US and Canada raising funds for the Society in 1897, and was assigned to Egypt in 1899. In 1901, he would be sent back to the United States.<br />
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At this time the United States was classified as a mission territory by the Catholic Church (it would remain so until 1908.) There was slowly growing infrastructure to support the immigrant Catholic population, but Fr. Lissner quickly noticed the lack of care for African-American Catholics. The Holy See decided to take action by instructing the Bishop of Savannah-Atlanta to use the Society of African Missions to provide the needed pastoral care. The bishop called up Fr. Lissner.<br />
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In 1915 a bill came before the Georgia legislature that would have made the education of black children by white teachers illegal. The Catholic schools in Savannah at the time were served by Franciscan sisters - who were all white. To avoid closing the schools, Fr. Lissner proposed a new religious congregation of black sisters to the Bishop. This would become <a href="https://cmswr.org/community/franciscan-handmaids-of-the-most-pure-heart-of-mary/">Handmaids of the Most Pure Heart of Mary</a>. Under the leadership of <a href="https://www.patheos.com/resources/additional-resources/2011/04/from-savannah-to-harlem-mother-theodore-williams-pat-mcnamara-04-12-2011">Elizabeth Barbara Williams, who took the name Mother Theodore</a>, the order was open to Catholic women regardless of race. However the bill that inspired their founding did not pass, and after struggling to survive in Georgia, the sisters relocated to New York where they found a home in Harlem.<br />
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At this time there was no seminary in the United States that would accept a black candidate. Fr. Lissner saw establishing a black clergy as part of his mission. With funds from <a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Katharine_Drexel">St. Mother Katherine Drexel, S.B.S</a>., a property was purchased in New Jersey, and St. Anthony's Mission was established in 1921. Fr. Lissner recruited six black candidates, all of whom graduated and were ordained. However, they experienced so much prejudice and hate in their congregations - all of them ended up serving outside of the United States. Those same forces led to the seminary's closure in 1927.<br />
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As the Society expanded to the West Coast, it became apparent the work serving the blacks of America could not be staffed by Europeans alone. Fr. Lissner began working on establishing a fully functioning region of the Society of African Mission in the US. A novitiate and seminary were constructed in New Jersey in 1938, and the Society in the United States was moved to the status of a full province in 1941. Fr. Lissner was the first provincial superior.<br />
World War II caused recruitment to be nearly impossible due to the draft, and travel restrictions made the work of a missionary society difficult even within the US. Fr. Lissner saw the Society through the challenges of WWII, including the burning down of the seminary in 1943.<br />
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Fr. Lissner retired as provincial superior in 1946 due to age and illness. He died in Teaneck, New Jersey on August 7, 1948.<br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">California - <a href="https://eudistservants.org/biography-of-mother-antonia-brenner/">Mother Antonia</a></span><br />
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Born to a privileged family in 1926 as Mary Clarke, and raised in Beverly Hills, CA, Mother Antonia had a heart for service from a young age. She participated with her family in a variety of help programs, both international and domestic.<br />
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She first married at 18, would eventually be married twice, and raised seven children. She continued to feel a strong call to serve the needy and remained heavily involved in charitable work - while also running her deceased father's business and raising said seven children.<br />
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In a documentary made about her life (<a href="https://web.archive.org/web/20080612033246/http://www.cbc.ca/thecurrent/2007/200711/20071120.html" style="font-style: italic;">Faith Inside the Walls</a>) Mother Antonia speaks about a dream she had in 1969. In this dream Jesus appeared to her and offered to take her place. She refused his offer and tells him that she will never leave him. During the 1970s she would choose to devote her life to the Church in part because of this dream.<br />
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Within just a few years, she was again divorced, sold her home and possessions, and moved to Tijuana, Mexico to serve the prisoners there full time. She moved into a 10 x 10 cell in the women's wing of La Mesa penitentiary.<br />
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As a divorced woman, and being past the age of admittance to most orders, Mother Antonia found herself unable to join most religious orders. So she took private vows, with permission of the bishop, and donned a religious habit.<br />
After a year of serving in this way, her work came to the attention of the bishops of Tijuana and nearby San Diego. The Bishop of Tijuana made her an auxiliary Mercedarian (<a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Order_of_the_Blessed_Virgin_Mary_of_Mercy">an order devoted to prisoners</a>) making her a sister at the age of 50.<br />
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After receiving multiple requests to join Mother Antonia and follow in her footsteps, The Eudist Servants Of The Eleventh Hour religious community was founded in 1997 at the urging of diocesan leaders in Tijuana. Accepted by the Bishop of Tijuana in 2003, <a href="https://eudistservants.org/becoming-a-eudist-servant-of-the-eleventh-hour/">the order is for older women who feel the call to serve God later in life "a kind of “encore” dedicated to Our Lord."</a><br />
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Mother Antonia is remembered for her ever present smile and love for everyone. She was known to get in the middle of prison riots and diffuse tensions. In a quote to the Washington Post, Mother Antonia said "“Pleasure depends on where you are, who you are with, what you are eating. Happiness is different. Happiness does not depend on where you are. I live in prison. And I have not had a day of depression in 25 years. I have been upset, angry. I have been sad. But never depressed. I have a reason for my being.”<br />
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A period of declining health forced her to move out of the prison and into a local home in Tijuana. She died on October 17, 2013 at the age of 86.<br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">Colorado - <a href="http://www.juliagreeleyhome.org/whyjulias-1-1/">Julia Greeley</a> - Servant of God</span><br />
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Born into slavery in Missouri sometime in the 1840s, Julia had a very hard early life. She was physically abused, lost an eye during a beating, and became permanently lame. Freed after the Civil War, Julia worked as a housekeeper and nanny. She moved to Denver to follow a job offer by a Mrs. Dickenson. Mrs. Dickenson who would eventually marry William Gilpin - the first territorial governor of Colorado.<br />
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Mrs. Dickenson was a devout Catholic and it was through her influence that Julia converted to the Catholic faith. Julia had a faith that would become legendary in Denver. Associated with Sacred Heart parish since it's establishment in 1879, Julia was a daily communicant.<br />
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She had a particular devotion to the poor, children, and for firemen (who worked a particularly dangerous job in the 19th century.) She was known to visit every single firehouse in the city of Denver monthly, distributing Sacred Heart leaflets. There was not a single fireman, Catholic or not, in the city of Denver that didn't know Julia. All of this despite not being able to read, write, or even count, herself.<br />
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She was constantly visiting the poor and begging for their needs. Her charity knew no bounds. She would often deliver her charitable gifts at night and in secret as she learned that many white families were embarrassed to be seen accepting charity from a black woman. She was frequently seen carrying coal and groceries to needy families, despite being so poor herself she needed assistance from the city charity department for her own fuel and groceries.<br />
She was victimized multiple times by charity fraud,<a href="http://juliagreeley.org/index.php/obituary/"> but her obituary remembers</a> that "Julia’s rule seemingly was that it was better to give than to be too careful and deny assistance to someone who needed it."<br />
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Her love for children was well known. Julia was always up for taking care of babies, and she was trusted by all in Denver. She was remembered as a loving nanny for her many little charges over the years. The only known photograph of her, taken in 1916, shows Julia cradling a child.<br />
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Julia died on June 7, 1918, fittingly on the feast of the Sacred Heart to which she was so devoted. Her funeral attracted huge crowds as people from all over the city came to pay their respects to "the woman with the wide winged spirit."<br />
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<span style="font-size: large;">Connecticut - <a href="https://owlcation.com/humanities/An-American-Enigma-Sister-Nazarena-of-Jesus">Nazarena of Jesus</a></span><br />
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Born Julia Crotta in Glastonbury, Connecticut on October 15, 1907, this is a story of the talented girl next door who was called to a rare vocation.<br />
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The seventh child of Italian immigrants, Julia showed a talent for music. She started her studies at the Hartford Conservatory and moved on to study piano and and violin at Yale. She would leave Yale for a small Catholic school, to the dismay of the Yale music school dean, after an event her junior year that changed everything.<br />
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Julia is not remembered as a particularly devout person as a youngster. When a Dominican nun invited her to a Holy Week retreat in her junior year, her agreement to go was reluctant. It was an event in the chapel as she prayed alone in the evening of Good Friday that changed her life. She had a mystical experience in which she felt distinctly that Jesus was calling her into the desert.<br />
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She would spend years trying to discover what was this desert.<br />
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Julia finished college, and found work as a secretary. With her spiritual director she tried to understand this call to the desert. She tried the Carmelites of Rhode Island but find that found that was not the right fit. Her spiritual director sent her to Rome to wait for God to show his plan for her life. She tried the Camaldolese monastery, but felt restless. The superior advised her to try the Carmelites of Rome, where she would remain for five years - through the harsh trials of World War II.<br />
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The day before she would pronounce final vows for the Carmelites - Julia decided to leave the order.<br />
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She found work in a soup kitchen, but her spiritual director had an idea that Julia should enter the Camaldolese again - but not as a novice. This time as a "private recluse".<br />
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The private recluse, or <a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Anchorite">anchoress</a>, is an ancient custom and traditional to the Camaldolese order. But typically only after a number of years in the order, and even then only with special permission. The vocation is rare, almost unheard of outside of the Middle Ages.<br />
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A priest friend of Julia's arranged for her to have a private audience with Pope Pius XII. The Pope looked over the one page document that described Julia's proposed rule for her future life.<br />
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<i><a href="https://owlcation.com/humanities/An-American-Enigma-Sister-Nazarena-of-Jesus">“Isn’t it a bit too rigid?” he asked, “I wish it were even more so!” Julia responded. The Pope smiled and said, “If this is the rule by which you wish to live, then take it as it is.”</a></i><br />
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On November 21, 1945, Julia entered the Camadolese monestery as a recluse - taking the name Nazarena of Jesus. She was restricted to a single cell, never allowed herself an idle moment, and attended mass and received food through a grille. She never spoke a word to anyone, except for once a year when she spoke to her spiritual director. These direction sessions could last for hours - with Nazarena talking all day.<br />
She died in the monastery on February 7, 1990 at the age of 82.<br />
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Nazarena of Jesus, nee Julia Crotta, isn't remarkable because of the strictness and rigor of her eventual vocation - although it is that. I find her remarkable because she persisted in pursuing her vocation. Despite many false leads, dead ends, years of waiting, and last minute changes. This was not a girl who always dreamed of becoming a nun. She was called to a medieval vocation as a talented, educated, modern Catholic woman. Yet she still said yes. Even to the improbable.<br />
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Kirbyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10273803585943545418noreply@blogger.com2tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-232664651858738176.post-13796379236868746262019-04-29T08:38:00.000-05:002019-04-29T10:46:40.721-05:00Alabama to Arkansas - Cool Historic Catholics of America<i>Welcome to the first installation of the Cool Historic Catholics of America series! I hope you will learn a little bit about some people you have never have heard of before. </i><br />
<i><a href="https://underthyroof.blogspot.com/2019/04/cool-historic-catholics-of-america.html">Please make sure to read the intro post where I explain the selection criteria and process before you get upset about who is listed for your state.</a> M'kay? </i><br />
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<b><span style="font-size: large;">Alabama </span></b>- <a href="http://www.fathercoyle.org/index.htm"><span style="font-size: large;">Fr. James Coyle</span></a><br />
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Born in 1873 in Ireland, Fr. Coyle is a good example of some of the pressures American Catholicism was facing in the latter part of the 19th and early 20th centuries. Ordained in Ireland at 23 years old, he sailed for America was another priest later that year to serve in Birmingham, Alabama. He was one of many Catholic priests brought to areas with growing Catholic populations in this period. In Birmingham's case, it was the large number of European immigrants coming to work the mills and mines.<br />
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Anti-Catholic, anti-immigrant, and racist beliefs were converging, and the Ku Klux Klan was ascending in Alabama. <a href="http://www.fathercoyle.org/newspaper/passing.htm">On August 11, 1921, Fr. Coyle was shot in the head while sitting on the swing of the parish rectory.</a> The gunman was an enraged Protestant minister and Klan member. Just two hours earlier his daughter had been married to a dark-skinned Puerto Rican man, in a ceremony celebrated by Fr. Coyle.<br />
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Fr. Coyle died 40 minutes later on the operating table. His funeral was one of the largest ever held in the history of Birmingham.<br />
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Despite multiple eye witnesses to the murder, the shooter was found not guilty. It was a case defended by a team that included four clans men, paid for by the Klan, and heard by a Klansman judge.<br />
The verdict had a chilling effect on the Catholic population.<br />
But it marked the climax of anti-Catholicism in Alabama at the time. <a href="http://www.fathercoyle.org/newspaper/remember.htm">A local woman remembers</a>, "After the trial there followed such revulsion of feeling among the right-minded who before had been bogged down in blindness and indifference that slowly and almost unnoticeably the Ku Klux Klan and their ilk began to lose favor among the people. It took a long time to accomplish this, and the feeling has broken out again periodically at odd times. We know that it will never be entirely wiped out, but today I should venture to say that the Catholics of Alabama enjoy the respect and good will of 85 per cent of the state. Let us not forget the martyred priest, who by his death was the instrument for bringing about in such large degree this happy state of affairs."<br />
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<span style="font-size: large;"><b>Alaska</b> - <a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Herman_of_Alaska">St. Herman of Alaska</a></span><br />
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Ok, I know I said these would all be Catholics. But Alaska had slim pickin's and this guy is a really cool Orthodox who had a big impact on Alaska. We're a Church with two lungs, right?<br />
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So Herman of Alaska! He was born in Russia in the 1750s-ish. All the historians disagree/just don't know about his early life. Everyone agrees that, while well liked by his monk brethren, Herman felt called to a more solitary life. He became a hermit with his abbot's blessing. While offered ordination to the priesthood, and a nice mission assignment to China, Herman refused - preferring his simple life.<br />
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Russian colonization of Alaska was in full gear through the end of the 18th century, and the Shelikhov-Golikov Company appealed to Most Holy Synod of the Russian Orthodox Church to send priests to minister to the natives. Catherine-the-Great decided to send an entire mission. The final mission included 10 monks from Herman's abbey, including Herman. They arrived on September 24, 1874.<br />
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Conditions were far worse than than monks had been led to believe, and promised supplies were wanting. Despite those challenges, the mission was very successful among the Native population, and the monks became the defenders of the native Kodiac population against overwork and abuse.<br />
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Despite still not being ordained, Herman became head of the mission in 1807.While he had very good relations with everyone, he longed to be a hermit again. He retired from active duty and moved to Spruce Island. The Island is separated from Kodiak by a mile-wide strait.<br />
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But even in his hermit habitat, Herman attracted a following. At first it was mostly Native visitors on Sundays and holy days. Then a chapel and guest house were added next to his hermitage. Then an orphanage. Whole families moved out to the island to be closer to him. He spent the rest of his life on the island until his death on November 15, 1836.<br />
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Which just goes to show even a vocation of solitary prayer can have a vigorous active ministry.<br />
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<span style="font-size: large;"><b>Arizona</b> - <a href="http://padrekino.com/kino-heritage-society/cannonization/">Fr. Eusebio Francisco Kino, S.J. - Servant of God</a></span><br />
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Born in Trent in 1645 and educated in Austria, Eusebio decided to enter the Jesuits after recuperating from a serious illness. He officially joined the Society on November 20, 1665. He completed his priestly training, taught Mathematics for a while in Ingolstat, and was ordained to the priesthood on June 12, 1677.<br />
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He wanted an assignment to China, but was instead sent to New Spain. He missed the first boat, and had to wait another year to catch the next one. But while stuck in Spain he made some important astronomical observations, and discovered a comet. (Way to stay productive!)<br />
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Now New Spain was really a GIANT area, and Fr. Kino was specifically assigned to lead an expedition to Baja California. It was a massive failure and they had to return to Mexico City.<br />
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His next assignment was better. He arrived in the Pimeria Alta (modern day southern Arizona, northern Sonora, Mexico) in 1687. He established the first mission in the river valley of the Sonora Mountains, at the requests of the natives. He would eventually found or start 21 missions.<br />
He mapped much of the ancient trading routes through Arizona and California. His maps would remain the most accurate of the region for 150 years after his death, and they remain the <a href="https://www.wdl.org/en/item/134/">first accurate maps of Pimería Alta, the Gulf of California, and Baja California.</a><br />
His mission also taught the native people about European agriculture, seeds, and livestock. His mission herd of 20 cows grew to 70,000 - making him Arizona's first rancher.<br />
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He interacted with 16 different tribes, and strongly opposed slavery and the compulsory labor in the silver mines that was Spanish policy at the time. This made him controversial among his co-missionaries as most enacted the laws imposed by Spain on the colonized territories.<br />
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He remained in the missions until his death from fever in 1711 at the age of 65.<br />
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His cause for sainthood calls him <a href="http://padrekino.com/kino-heritage-society/cannonization/">Patron Saint of the Borderlands.</a> "Kino’s apostolic routes traversed every highway and desert trail in the Sonoran Desert Borderlands that are now traveled in danger by today's migrant. Kino's greatest legacy is the inspiration that his life gives to people on both sides of the U.S - Mexico Border who work to ease the suffering of today's migrants. Kino is Patron Saint of The Borderlands - Borderlands of peace, solidarity and prosperity."<br />
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His cause finally began when his skeleton was identified in 1966 in Magdalena de Kino, Sonora, 50 miles south of Nogales, Mexico. They are now awaiting the two required miracles.<br />
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You might also see his name spelled "Eusebio Francesco Chini". The Kino came into use in Spanish speaking regions, and he is best known as Fr. Kino.<br />
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<span style="font-size: large;"><b>Arkansas</b> - <a href="https://www.arkansas-catholic.org/news/article/5425/Candy-cane-priest-from-Little-Rock-had-a-sweet-secret">Fr. Gregory Harding Keller </a></span><br />
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And now for a just fun one! Or should I say sweet one?<br />
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Fr. Keller was a priest-inventor who had big contribution to make to the world of candy. Specifically, candy canes.<br />
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Candy canes have a long lore and history, at least to the 17th century anyway. Candy canes were recorded being made in the United States by 1847, but they were all homemade.<br />
In 1919 Bob McCormack founded McCormack’s Famous Candy Company - eventually to be called Bob's Candies. McCormack's made candy canes on a larger scale. But the process was very labor intensive, all hand done.<br />
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But Bob McCormack had an inventor in the family, his brother-in-law, Fr. Keller.<br />
Fr. Keller invented one machine that twisted the candies into the distinctive spiral shape and cut them. Later he invented a second machine that added the characteristic hook. <a href="https://www.ncronline.org/file/candy-cane-patentjpg">The combined machines become known as a Keller Machine.</a><br />
The Keller Machine is what makes the candy cane industry possible.<br />
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But that's not all he invented. Fr. Keller held patents on to process peanut butter cookies, package peanuts, decorate candies, and a "stick assortment gathering machine" to create assorted packages of candies.<br />
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He held eight degrees. After completing his first doctorate in Rome, he found himself unable to return home due to World War I. So he stayed and got another doctorate. (As you do, I suppose.)<br />
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He died on September 1. 1979 after completing 60 years as a diocesan priest serving near his hometown of Little Rock, Arkansas.<br />
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I'm a very distract-able amateur historian. I love stories, and I especially love real life stories.<br />
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Spending a lot of time among historic newspapers, diaries, and other fragments of the past means that I hear a lot of whispers and echos of stories of everyday people who lived extraordinary lives.<br />
Sometimes the stories were about one amazing event in their life. Sometimes it was the unlikeliness of their circumstances that led to their memory getting passed down.<br />
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It occurred to me there are probably stories of people in my own faith tradition that are still living in that whisper and echo place. Where local people know the story like an old friend, but someone on the other side of the country have never even heard of their name.<br />
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While Catholics are a huge population globally, they are not spread evenly across the United States. The US is a young country with spotty historical records. Yet I challenged myself to find someone from every state in the US, plus Washington DC, who was either in the pipeline for sainthood or was just a cool historic Catholic person.<br />
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I specifically wanted to find those stories that are often passed over. Most of them are not clergy or bishops. I sought after the stories of women, minorities, young people, and those who are not well known. Some of them are widely beloved, and some are controversial figures. They are required to be historic - so no living people are on this list. Their time will come!<br />
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While I love them too, you won't find saints like Elizabeth Ann Seton or Kateri Tekakwitha on this list. This is about the people you might not have heard of before.<br />
Some states had a plethora of amazing stories to choose from. Some I had to really dig to find any names.<br />
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I tried to assign people to the state of their formation or to where they did the brunt of their work. Many people impacted multiple states, so sometimes it was an editorial call as to which state I would have them represent.<br />
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I'll be releasing the whole list 4-6 states at a time so I can do as much justice to their stories as possible. Feel free to comment on other Catholic people from their states that have their own amazing, yet largely unknown, story. Perhaps we'll do a bonus list!<br />
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So check back in the next few weeks as I release the list! In alphabetical order. Because I've been through multiple iterations of grouping, and trust me this is just the best way.<br />
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<span style="font-size: large;"><i><a href="https://underthyroof.blogspot.com/2019/04/alabama-to-arkansas-cool-historic.html">Alabama to Arkansas</a></i></span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;"><i><a href="https://underthyroof.blogspot.com/2019/05/california-to-connecticut-cool-historic.html">California to Connecticut</a></i> </span><br />
<span style="font-size: large;"><i><a href="https://underthyroof.blogspot.com/2019/05/delaware-to-georgia-cool-historic.html">Delaware to Georgia</a></i></span></div>
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You could say I failed Lent this year.<br />
In the sense that I did not achieve what I set out to do in my initial vision.<br />
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But by that standard I "fail" in just about everything I attempt.<br />
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Lent is a popular practice - even among non-Catholics and non-Christians. There is something about systematically setting aside a time for simplicity, challenge, and trying to be more honestly who we are meant to be, that speaks to a deep longing many of us find within ourselves.<br />
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What I find most thrilling about Lent is how much better it gets because of the intentional surrender to God's Will.<br />
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I do a give up, a take on, and a pray on.<br />
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This year I decided to give up meat as a family, take on fostering intentional community, and praying on healing for victims of abuse.<br />
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I thought this would be a Lent of trying new recipes and re-visiting old favorites from when we ate tons of veggies in California. Calling up old friends, and making intentional time to foster new friendships. Spending some time in adoration and dedicating rosaries for abuse victim/survivors.<br />
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<a href="https://underthyroof.blogspot.com/2019/03/we-had-house-fire-and-lent-is-still.html">Then we had a house fire.</a><br />
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Suddenly meatless Lent became about being grateful for any meal that was provided for us.<br />
Intentional community became learning to accept help when it was offered, and being ok with saying yes to letting people into our hard times.<br />
I haven't had those times of extra silent prayer and adoration time. But I<a href="https://underthyroof.blogspot.com/2019/03/a-young-parent-response-to-church-abuse.html"> talked to The Atlantic about how parents are dealing with the crisis (or, in some cases, not dealing with the crisis)</a>, listened to the stories of survivors, and supported those creating future plans for parish and diocese events for furthering healing and understanding.<br />
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Nothing about this Lent is something I could have planned. It's not at all what I had planned.<br />
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And it's so much better.<br />
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Getting back into our house the weekend of Passiontide was both a relief and a burden. We're just so, overwhelmingly, grateful to be home, to still have a home, and to start to get things back to normal. But it's also so painfully obvious how much further we have to go.<br />
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The house hadn't been lived in for five weeks. It had been through temperature fluctuations ranging from -18 to 55 degrees. The dust and dirt of winter plus that time of non-habitation plus fire and smoke meant every, single, thing needs attention.<br />
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It would be so easy not to deal with it. To pretend that everything is fine and not even start. And suddenly I realized how often we do that with those non-physical aspects of Lent.<br />
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How often are there issues in our own lives that are within our grasp to address, but we don't.<br />
Maybe we think it will be too much effort.<br />
Too much demand.<br />
Too much change.<br />
Too overwhelming.<br />
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Many of those things we need to address are easy to hide, easy to ignore. Yeah, it's not great to ignore your mental health, overindulge, or entertain destructive thought processes. But it's easy to hide and pretend everything is fine under the hood. We all know that's a bad long term plan, but do we do it? For sure. I do it too.<br />
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But it's so much better to deal with it. To get in the dirt and grime, and start to chip away at the hold it has on you.<br />
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As we go into Holy Week this year, think about what in your Lent needs a little elbow grease? Where could you push just a little further in these last days of Passiontide? Where could you let grace shine in a little more?<br />
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