tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-232664651858738176.post1151572799366777034..comments2024-03-04T00:44:07.072-06:00Comments on Under Thy Roof: We Need to Talk About BreastfeedingKirbyhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10273803585943545418noreply@blogger.comBlogger19125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-232664651858738176.post-73044183354720010622017-05-22T07:26:23.436-05:002017-05-22T07:26:23.436-05:00Don't beat yourself up about it! The people ar...Don't beat yourself up about it! The people around you should have listened to what you wanted, and I'm so sorry you were not heard. That shouldn't have happened.Kirbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10273803585943545418noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-232664651858738176.post-1074884388828889982017-05-22T01:35:34.464-05:002017-05-22T01:35:34.464-05:00Thanks fr this article.M really depressed about no...Thanks fr this article.M really depressed about not being able to my Lo. I dint get any support from my in laws or husband to atleast try it. They all wanted time with the bby n supported formula specially my mother in law.I dnt knw if i can ever overcum this guilt of not evn trynAnonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15816252627764648426noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-232664651858738176.post-16256984672644058752017-01-19T22:48:11.226-06:002017-01-19T22:48:11.226-06:00Please share away. So glad it resonated with you!Please share away. So glad it resonated with you!Kirbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10273803585943545418noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-232664651858738176.post-14078915700616886182017-01-19T22:47:12.999-06:002017-01-19T22:47:12.999-06:00Can I share this on social media? I saw this in re...Can I share this on social media? I saw this in response to an article about why breastfeeding is hard and I am in love. I have chronic low supply and I worked myself to the core trying to make exclusively breastfeeding work. I am in some low supply support groups and I think they would really appreciate seeing this!Emilyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16761193814897438551noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-232664651858738176.post-29307376825832671372016-11-22T15:43:40.341-06:002016-11-22T15:43:40.341-06:00Kirby, I have to admit that I was one of those who...Kirby, I have to admit that I was one of those whole-hearted breastfeeding moms that assumed everyone COULD and SHOULD breastfeed. I was kind of asinine about the whole thing, too. Then my sister had a baby, had trouble, and suddenly it was like my whole perspective shifted. It was almost as though I had to live through it vicariously, you know? <br /><br />Thanks for sharing your thoughts. You're right - moms do need to hear this. All of this.vkochishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13157992549647251588noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-232664651858738176.post-62064950436678696382016-11-20T14:59:00.101-06:002016-11-20T14:59:00.101-06:00I think you bring up a good point. It is very hard...I think you bring up a good point. It is very hard for people to picture a situation outside of their own experience. I'm convinced that most people are not intentionally being vindictive or insensitive, they just really have no idea they might not have the whole picture. It's part of the reason I wanted to put this out there - to offer another perspective, and to practice being more honest about my own experience. It's SO HARD to speak when it feels like everyone else is nodding in agreement and you feel like the only one going "actually..." It is, I believe, ultimately better to share some of these uncomfortable stories and allow for the discomfort to settle then to continue to believe we have it all figured out.Kirbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10273803585943545418noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-232664651858738176.post-45023624457849167542016-11-20T14:52:35.149-06:002016-11-20T14:52:35.149-06:00Aww thanks Corie!Aww thanks Corie!Kirbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10273803585943545418noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-232664651858738176.post-63327800068127533002016-11-20T14:52:19.239-06:002016-11-20T14:52:19.239-06:00Amen sister!Amen sister!Kirbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10273803585943545418noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-232664651858738176.post-43958953374339064072016-11-20T14:51:31.856-06:002016-11-20T14:51:31.856-06:00I feel that parenting groups run into the same pro...I feel that parenting groups run into the same problems as many young adult groups. At some point all of the break off splintering groups makes us more lonely, not more connected. Since connection is the main point of a support group, we seem to be hurting ourselves by overspecializing right off the bat.<br /><br />Thanks for making the effort to start the "not about babies" conversations! I'm a big believer that moms can (and do) have other interests, but we seem to forget how to talk about them when we go through years of conversation atrophy. Kirbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10273803585943545418noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-232664651858738176.post-51750410108971257502016-11-20T14:48:20.266-06:002016-11-20T14:48:20.266-06:00I'm sorry you go through that! When I was preg...I'm sorry you go through that! When I was pregnant with my second baby I would try and attend my local LLL meetings, with toddler in tow, in hopes of breastfeeding successfully with my newborn. Having to give my older child a bottle in a LLL meeting was one of my more uncomfortable early parenting experiences. I'm right there with you!Kirbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10273803585943545418noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-232664651858738176.post-47163640014122398452016-11-20T14:46:15.042-06:002016-11-20T14:46:15.042-06:00I feel like so many things in those early years ar...I feel like so many things in those early years are full of decisions that seem to come with backseat parenting. It's so important to remember that we all have different bodies, temperaments, needs, and comfort levels, which will all drastic change what the "right" answer is for our family!Kirbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10273803585943545418noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-232664651858738176.post-45671013191449774212016-11-20T14:43:38.762-06:002016-11-20T14:43:38.762-06:00Exactly! I really believe that all parenting decis...Exactly! I really believe that all parenting decisions, including breastfeeding, are a balance of the needs of mom, dad, and THAT baby. Each kid might be widely different, and it's nigh impossible to know exactly what that baby will need and how you will be different with each newborn.Kirbyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10273803585943545418noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-232664651858738176.post-24864589112973493712016-11-19T07:54:04.997-06:002016-11-19T07:54:04.997-06:00I wholeheartedly agree! Honestly, I feel like ther...I wholeheartedly agree! Honestly, I feel like there are some people who just can't understand how sometimes breastfeeding isn't actually best because they haven't been there. I had to supplement with my first two, and the first time was so traumatic I almost didn't try to nurse the second time around! Now I'm nursing my third baby and it's the first time I haven't had to supplement (I'm still in disbelief some days). Having said that, breastfeeding is still HARD. I really wish I had known before I had babies that sometimes things don't work out the way you planned. But like you said, fed is totally best. Thank you for sharing your heart on this!Jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11276209910952937728noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-232664651858738176.post-11581687006674973952016-11-18T21:10:16.329-06:002016-11-18T21:10:16.329-06:00This is awesome Kirby! I've learned a lot from...This is awesome Kirby! I've learned a lot from you about what it looks like for a mom to bring herself to a friendship and conversation instead of only talking about her parenting style. I love all of these suggestions, Thank you for writing!Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09941305675837161068noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-232664651858738176.post-50257893379760374952016-11-18T20:28:19.622-06:002016-11-18T20:28:19.622-06:00While I have been able to nurse mine, I will say I...While I have been able to nurse mine, I will say I am also staunchly in the "fed is best" camp! I was formula fed, and no words for wear, imo. Also, I fervently believe we moms need to take a step back and simply support one another - stop judging, and start loving! <br /><br />Great post!Beautiful Camouflaged Messhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17648096506121680946noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-232664651858738176.post-40260671925959851282016-11-18T12:46:11.982-06:002016-11-18T12:46:11.982-06:00Amen to all of this, Kirby! I think you bring up a...Amen to all of this, Kirby! I think you bring up a great (but sad) point about not having support for women who bottle-feed. The closest thing I can think of is that at one of the local parenting stores where I live, there's a "Working Moms" group that meets, and I'm guessing some of them use formula or pump if they work away from home. <br />And I'm all about #4! I think it is so incredibly important to connect with others as women, and not just as cloth diaper-ers or breastfeeders or whatever. Conversations often wind up dipping into those areas anyway, but I try really hard to ask other women about themselves and their hobbies when I get together with other moms. AnneMariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13462442204217572325noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-232664651858738176.post-86726800902097166162016-11-18T11:53:07.151-06:002016-11-18T11:53:07.151-06:00I love breastfeeding! But I don't produce eno...I love breastfeeding! But I don't produce enough milk, so I have to supplement from day one. I'm fairly comfortable breastfeeding in public, but I like to go to another room to bottle feed in many situations. I just can't take the judging.Alicia @ Sweeping Up Joyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18166554346293304750noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-232664651858738176.post-26653192963242467662016-11-18T11:23:09.397-06:002016-11-18T11:23:09.397-06:00I appreciate this post. There is way too much advi...I appreciate this post. There is way too much advice to go around. Breastfeeding has not been an easy journey for me, and I was definitely not prepared for that, so I know I can never comment on people who choose the best way they can to feed their baby. On the flipside, it seems that people love making judgements no matter what! I am nursing my 3 kids (my oldest is 3) because that's how it's working for us and people judge or tell me I should stop. Oy vey! Why don't people just let us parent as best we can? Only we know individually what's best for our families!Biancahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10629074229091510163noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-232664651858738176.post-87077365856768953742016-11-18T10:49:53.795-06:002016-11-18T10:49:53.795-06:00I have agree with you. Breastfeeding is something...I have agree with you. Breastfeeding is something awesome to do, but there is no real support for mom's that do it. I breastfeed my 2 kids, and expect to breastfeed my 3rd one, but I honestly say, that you have to do what's best for the child and yourself. <br /><br />If breastfeeding is stressing you out, and causing severe mental problems, problems bonding with your child, then maybe you should consider formula. At the end of the day, it's to have healthy children, and a healthy mom.KalleyC | bloggingwhilenursinghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04533282724999698112noreply@blogger.com