What I'm Doing Here

Tuesday, January 24, 2017

"What am I even doing here?"

I would be lying if I said that thought has never crossed my mind - in fact, it has happened in just about every situation. I question what I'm really working towards in ballet, in parish work, in auditions, even at the park. I wonder what I have to offer that is any different from everyone else or if I am making any forward movement at all.

Blogging might be one of the biggest areas of that last wondering. The blog world isn't exactly lacking the voice of a Catholic mom, but here I am talking anyway on the tiniest off chance I might be your brand of weird.

In case you're new here, I want to take the chance to let you get to know me a little better!

Intro time!

I'm a Texas girl living in the SF Bay Area. I'm home with my 4 and 2 year old during the day, and I dance, act, and sing by night. More on the About Me page

Why I Started Blogging

My first post was in July of 2015. I started writing my own blog because I had noticed that no one asked me any questions that did not relate to my kids. Ever. I figured that if no one thought I had anything to say than I had better start talking!

How This Blog Got Its Name

My husband suggested the name Under Thy Roof after my first few choices for blog names were taken. I wanted something to  simultaneously reference the little domestic church and the big Catholic Church.

Under Thy Roof references the words of the Roman Centurion in Matthew 8, which are also the last words we speak in preparation to receive the Eucharist at mass, "Lord, I am not worthy that you should enter under my roof, but only say the word and my soul shall be healed." I like to think of my home, and my personhood, as being God's first and foremost. Hence it's all his roof. I just live and work here.

What I Do Here

You might have noticed that I write a lot about Catholicism, Parenting, Homeschool, Performing (mostly about Ballet but I throw some theater in there too), and I have a penchant for writing strong articles when something makes me mad.

I honestly think there are other people on the internet who can cover the first three better than I, in fact I know they do (maybe with the exception of this particular issue), but I feel like I'm speaking in an echo chamber when it comes to performing. I know it is not because there are not moms working in the performing arts, because I work with some of them and I am one, but their voices are hard to find outside the theater.

Performing is a big part of who I am, and that did not die with that first positive pregnancy test. Continuing to take my opportunities to perform, even with little kids, takes some creativity and gumption but has been well worth it. I am proud to show my kids that they enhance my life, and that it is possible, even desirable, to grow your passions at the same time. We've found a beautiful balance in our lives that allows both my husband and I to pursue what we love. 

I don't think I'm the only person like me out there, so I am writing this for her. 
For the mom who is currently walking through the intense loneliness and isolation of that first year with baby.
For the young adult who feels like they are a social pariah for wanting to be fully Catholic.
For the new homeschool parents who worries their kid is missing out.
For everyone who wonders what might have happened if they had stuck with ballet a little longer.

If I might be your flavor of weird, stick around and introduce yourself! If you just think I'm weird, stick around too. Lord knows you're in good company. 


  1. Love your reason on starting a blog and how you have kept being YOU even after becoming a mom. Thanks for sharing some of the posts you have written on certain topics - what a great variety you have been gifted to write on!!! Keep up the good work here!!

  2. "I don't think I'm the only person like me out there, so I am writing this for her. " love it.
    I am a Texas gal, finally back in Texas after 25 years away... and I also veil, just fyi.
    Anyway - I love your blog.
    Fantastic post. I'm off to read about Ballet. <3

  3. I love this! What a journey you've had, and what a fantastically thorough post. You've inspired me to go back and update mine to include examples of what I write about :)

  4. Your voice is needed in the Catholic mom blogosphere. You offer inspiration to pursue our vocations as mothers while maintaining our identity as women. Thanks for sharing!

  5. Dear Kirby it is such a lot of work being a mother...children are a gift from the Lord...
    my father used to say to me enjoy them as they grow so quickly....
    I like to share my love of the scriptures in my blog plus my artwork...
    Writing is a talent...and creative....enjoy!


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