True Compassion: Valuing Others More than They Value Themselves
Tuesday, October 6, 2015
Yesterday, California Governor Brown signed into law the so called "Right-to-Die" Bill (ABX215). Physician assisted suicide will now be legal in California, as it already is in four other states.
What really got to me was Governor Brown's reasoning for signing the bill:
"In the end, I was left to reflect what I would want in the face of my own death. I do not know what I would do if I were dying in prolonged and excruciating pain. I am certain, however, that it would be a comfort to consider the options afforded by this bill."
What I find interesting is that more often this "option" is not so much a comfort for the patient, but an out for the family/friends.
If an ill person is so sick that they do not value their own life more than the feelings of others - it is our job to value it for them. That is what it means to show love and compassion to a person in pain.
It is our failure, as a society, to learn how to deal with the pain and suffering of others that has led us to this warped world where patients give up their lives to make things "easier" for their families.
Terminally ill patients did not walk into that doctor's office thinking they would only fight until they were not supported anymore. That idea seeps in through the little failures of their supporters: failure to smile, to show hope, to just be there, to laugh, to find joy.
To a lesser degree of consequence, I see the building blocks of this failure in many other situations. The new mom isolated at home and completely over her head with this perfectly needy newborn.
The homeless man who misses the days when people would look him in the eye on the street.
The elderly woman who loves people but feels no one is interested in the musings of an old woman.
What they all need is to be valued for their personhood first and foremost.
Not for what they can give society.
Not for how little demand they place on others.
People are worth fighting for because life is worth living. Period. No qualifiers. No maybes. No exceptions.
Monday, October 5, 2015
This is the final installment in my unintentional series on Baptism gifts! Catch the previous installments here:
I have never had the honor of sponsoring an adult through RCIA, but these are the gifts I have thought of for such an event!
If an adult is getting baptised, they are almost certainly getting the other two sacraments of initiation as well. Therefore, many of these are also gifts I would consider giving for a First Communion or Confirmation as well.
I love all of the little home reminders of our faith! This is identical to the font I have at our front door, but I also like the idea of having them in bedrooms so everyone can bless themselves before going to sleep and waking up.
If you really want to bring this gift home, remember to bring a little holy water bottle to fill from the same font as their baptism. How cool would it be to have some of the actual holy water used in your baptism?!
There is a very wide selection of handmade rosaries available on etsy. I really like the idea of getting one that is modeled with their patron saint in mind. Some, like this St. Therese rosary, even contain special relics. This one holds a little dirt from around St. Therese's coffin taken in 1910 (a third class relic.)
BAPTISM GIFTS - FOR GODPARENTS
I have never had the honor of sponsoring an adult through RCIA, but these are the gifts I have thought of for such an event!
If an adult is getting baptised, they are almost certainly getting the other two sacraments of initiation as well. Therefore, many of these are also gifts I would consider giving for a First Communion or Confirmation as well.
Holy water font
I love all of the little home reminders of our faith! This is identical to the font I have at our front door, but I also like the idea of having them in bedrooms so everyone can bless themselves before going to sleep and waking up.
If you really want to bring this gift home, remember to bring a little holy water bottle to fill from the same font as their baptism. How cool would it be to have some of the actual holy water used in your baptism?!
Rosary with their patron saint
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| St. Therese rosary from etsy shop MorningStarGoods |
Remember to get the rosary blessed before giving it. I like the idea of having the priest who baptised them - or another special priest from the conversion process- do the blessing.
Letter Book
This one takes some advance planning, but I really like having people who were important to the baptismal candidate write letters about their memories of his/her journey in the conversion process, and their hopes for their future as a full member of the Church.
Suggestions for letter writers: RCIA leaders, sponsor, parents, godparents, RCIA classmates, siblings, and anyone else who was close to the person during their conversion.
This could easily become a scrapbook of their RCIA experience.
It could be as complicated as your little crafty heart desires!
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I hope someone finds these ideas helpful! Let me know if I missed your favorite!
Sunday, October 4, 2015
Yesterday we did baptism gifts for babies, now what about baptism gifts for adults?
We got the godfather t-shirt for John's godfather. It was funny and appropriate to the person who would appreciate the joke.
I really like giving personalized mementos that can also be useful. The etched mason jar is probably one of my favorite ones.
If you can't tell, I'm a big fan of etsy. I really like these keychains which are religion infused, but practical enough for everyday use.
For Godparents
We've given gifts to two sets of godparents so far with our two children. These have ranged from the silly to the very sentimental. I'm including all of those here to capture the flavor of your chosen godparents!
Silly
I think these t-shirts are funny and good for those early years godparents.![]() |
| From etsy shop TshirtsUniversity |
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| From etsy shops bobstshirtcompany |
Personalized
Sentimental
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| From etsy shop MarieLoveJewelery |
I'm not including it here, because it was an unusual situation to have a grandmother as a godmother, but we gave my mom a grandmother Christmas tree ornament as her godmother gift.
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The correct answer to yesterday's "what did I get the baby for his baptism" questions was....
The mass book!
While it was not this exact mass book, mine did not have the baby teether additions, I really like the idea of adding them. Someone else needs to have a baby get baptised so I can get this one!
Saturday, October 3, 2015
I have a baptism to attend in an hour, so it makes perfect sense to write up some of my favorite baptism gift ideas. Right?
Here are some gift ideas for the new little Catholic!
I like getting these little pewter statues because they are a real religious object that little little kids can play with and be (reasonably) safe. aka. nearly impossible to break.
I try my best to get their patron saint, but sometimes it's a saint that has special meaning for their parents about this baby.
Here are some gift ideas for the new little Catholic!
Patron Saint Statue
| 3.5 inches tall in reality. |
I try my best to get their patron saint, but sometimes it's a saint that has special meaning for their parents about this baby.
Fabric mass book
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| These are from the etsy shop BabiesBowTiesRibbons |
Some brilliant person made a fabric printing that are most of the responses we have at mass! Etsy people have sewn them for you, and occasionally added fabric tags and teethers so baby is super entertained at mass.
If you want to sew one yourself, I found the fabric!
CCC Saint Movie
I LOVE these movies! If the child has a patron saint included among the CCC movies, I would get that in a heartbeat!
The Day the Sun Danced (Fatima) and St. Patrick were my favorites growing up.
Children's Bible
I like children's bibles! Here are the ones I use with my kids. Pictures are clickable links!
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Now, who can guess what I got for this little one's baptism today?
Here are your hints!
1. It's on this list.
2. His patron saint is St. Gabriel the Archangel
3. He's 4 months old
What do you think?
Friday, October 2, 2015
Linking up with This Ain't the Lyceum for another Friday of 7 Quick Takes!
It has been a busy week around here in little ways. Here are some of my favorite things this week beginning with the Feast of the Little Flower!
1. Therese had a name day!
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| Therese with St. Therese! |
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| The utter joy of food squashed above your eyebrows...good times. |
2. John is blossoming as a "shadow dancer"
Check out these sweet 3 year old moves.
He might have some Peter Pan auditions in his future.
3. The Ants are Swarming!
We took a walk around the neighborhood as an "insect hunt" for letter I week. It was the day after a very much awaited (but very light) rain. The. Ants. Are. Swarming!
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| This was the best picture I got because they had started crawling over my feet. Yeah. That was fun. |
I thought we were just going to find rolly pollys, dragonflies, maybe a beetle or two. Oui.
4. Rain/threat of rain means introducing the kids to children's museums!
We have a pretty awesome children's museum, Habitot, within walking distance of our house (or short bus ride.) Yet I have not taken the kids there the whole time we've lived in Berkeley.
The angry grey sky (and closed library) meant they finally got to enjoy its offerings.
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| They have a painting wall and the kids can make it as messy as they want. |
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| He was pouring water upstream so Therese's boat would float. Sweet sibling love! |
5. Elderly priests are awesome
I like to do the southern thing of going up to groups of friendly-enough people, and saying "Can I sit with y'all?" in the cheeriest voice I can muster. I meet great people this way.
My personal favorite this week was an elderly Salesian priest. Mostly because he said this:
"Well, I'm originally from Italy, but when Hitler invaded Poland I ran the other way. And I found the Salesians! So I suppose that worked out."
6. Papal Magic Tricks
This is not real. I repeat, not real.
But is it hilarious? Yes, yes it is.
7. Game night!
Tonight is our parish young adult game night with the Jesuit formation house guys. I'm pretty excited about it, and it rounds out my success in hanging out at church more nights than not this week. Winning!
Thursday, October 1, 2015
I live at the base on an area called "holy hill" in Berkeley, CA. There are a LOT of religious orders, schools, and formation houses around here.
I had the honor of attending the installation of the new Dominican School of Philosophy and Theology (DSPT) President last night. The installation mass was held at our parish, and celebrated by our bishop.
I figured a number of religious would attend, but there is knowing and there is seeing.
On my way to the church, a car pulled up and parked on the other side of the street. About six, young, habited Dominicans got out. Some pedestrians actually stopped and stared. The men were not bothered by this in the slightest (at least so it seemed.) They had already spotted more of their brothers, and were joined by men of a number of other religious orders.
Even though they are all part of different orders, with very different daily work and charisms, all of these guys are a whole entity when it comes to God. They were largely young and vibrant - people who had answered this call not all that long ago.
I wonder how many of them would have been friends had it not been for the church? How many of my friends would I never have met if not for the church?
It got me thinking about how different my life is because I've chosen to be a practicing Catholic. I met my husband via a Catholic website. I met my current friend group through the parish young adults group. My "outside the home" activities all center around the parish or Catholicism in some way.
I might not have chosen this life without the push and support of the church. It's actually a lot of work, and would be nearly impossible if not for the spiritual, emotional, and physical support I have recieved from my parish community.
I might have landed here eventually, but I might not. I might have gone down a lot of wrong roads and dead ends if not for the gentle guidance of the church. I can't say I would have been a very good person without this help. At the very least I would have a lot of unnecessary baggage.
The thing with all of those roads that the church tries to warn us from pursuing, you don't walk through it unscathed. You come out bruised and hurting - even those times when you don't want to admit that truth to yourself.
I'm eternally grateful for the church's efforts to keep me whole. She's always trying the prevent the harm I might even believe is a good at that moment. And when I don't listen - something I'm still working on - she offers a way home. All I have to do is say yes.
Monday, September 28, 2015
This is an ongoing series on our homeschool preschool adventures. You can read more about what curriculum we're doing and why here:
Also catch the previous installments:
These weeks were a lot calmer than our usual on the homeschool front. Matt went on a business trip most of H week, and we were still getting unpacked and back into a rhythm from our Yosemite trip during G week.
We did manage to do some fun stuff! Here are my top picks.
G Week
We made gummies! These were Elderberry gummies. I like the concept of making homemade gummies, but next time I would use something that was not so tart. Even with two cups of honey these were still too tart even for my taste (much less the three year old.)![]() |
| I just poured them into a glass dish and cut into squares. You can buy cute molds online and make all kinds of things! |
We actually found our copy in one of the many Little Free Libraries that are everywhere in this area. John knows this one by heart, and he was excited that it was one of his "school books" this week.
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| This is John reading to Therese back when she was six months old. "This is the red sheep and the blue sheep. They lookin' for the green sheep. I save that one for you Therese." |
H Week
One of the difficulties with H week was finding an H manipulative to make our letter picture. I finally just did highlighter.
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| John decided that one must complete the box on the capital H. |
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| Fire happens within the heart for John. |
I have not seen too many Jan Brett books before this homeschool preschool adventure, but I'm a fan of the little pictures in the margins that remind you of what just happened and foreshadow the next scene. John liked trying to guess what was going to happen next.
And finally, Holding!
This little one is seems allergic to using her legs when holding on to a person, but she is becoming a champion furniture holder.
Learning to stand is totally school when you're one, right?
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